im sorry to hear this.i am in a similar situation as you are.the only difference,i am the other woman.if i could somehow share my story because i too need healing.i am not asking for anything,just a chance to tell my story.you see,there was this man who i got to know at work.we got along,first hand attraction to each other,hit it off right away.i was convinced i loved him.and was convinced he loved me.he told me i understood him more than anybody did and he was in a crossroad in his life at the time.i have never been a relationship before.i have saved myself thinking that there will be a sign i would see when i am right for this man,and this man is right for me.when he told me i brought him peace,i thought that was it,that was my sign.that i am to bring him peace.after awhile,i found out that he had a girlfriend and a child with her.this was devastating news to me.i have started falling for this man but thought it wasnt right.i was angry and hurt with what he has done.i asked him to stay away.it turns out,his girlfriend reached out to me and told me that it was ok.that things were too burned between them and actually asked me to stay because somehow i brought peace to the scorned relationship between the two of them.for about almost a year,things seemed to have gotten better between them,it was an unusual relationship,but a peaceful one nonetheless.and although i still felt that difficult feeling within my heart,i was convinced that i was doing something good.along the way things took a bad turn.they're broken up.and we're broken up.words have been exchanged with cruel intentions behind them.now i sit here and think that no matter how much i try and convince myself that i had good intentions,i still broke up a family.i have gotten to love the little baby girl and care to what happens to her and her future.now i am lost.confused.
i am sorry this has happened to your family.i pray for you and your husband as i pray for me.