I am facing the same thing, I love my Husband with every thing I am, we have 4 beautiful kids together. He is a functioning alcoholic as well, people see his good side, but me and the kids get the worst. We can do no right by him. When he is sober, he is the best husband, father, individual, etc. But I also face a bigger challenge than that...His mother and sister and aunt and uncle are enablers, they provide, have it and encourage it. My husband just got out the hospital a few months ago, and alcohol almost took him from us. He hasn't been home in almost 2 weeks, because he knows I don't allow him here when he is in that state, which is ALL THE TIME. Please pray that he is set free from this alcoholism, sees that his wife and kids miss him dearly and need him, and that he is worth saving, he has often said "why would the Lord wanna help me or love me", he wants the help and needs the help, and he is NOT happy with the life he has choosen, he has said it to me several times. I just wish he could see what me and his kids see.