My wife and i have been separated for 18 months. During that time i have been in counseling and by the grace of God have continued to grow. She went to marriage counseling with me for awhile, but has not in the past year. I believe there is hope for our marriage. She will not talk about what she wants or where she is in terms of reconciliation. I am beginning to fall apart emotionally. I love her. I have a pit in my stomache and an ache in my heart. This year we would be married 30 years. Pray that the Holy SPirit would guide us both.