Thank you Chris8 I tought I was missing something! Everyone has their own way of seeing things and sometimes the way we are thaught may bring negative behavior we ourselves need to seek God, man even chrisitan friends can be cruel even if you know they may be somewhat right. Everyday is new sometimes the attachs seam unending and other days when we get through it seems almost to calm and quite, we have such a relief to have overcome and had victory. then something else comes along I guess thats why we chose our paths with Christ. Think about it when you meet a person who doesn't know him and doesn't seem to wait to, you can only ask they be sent the right person so they can acknowledge and see what you do how thankful you have become. People, even christian friends, family will at times always have harsh words that tear at our hearts, but when we have the mind of Christ we can heal and overcome and maybe even know its time to release those whom we may no longer be associates with. I love the way firstlady put it, dancing in the rain seams so much more pleasant and fun, she must be a joy to know. Go forward guest victory has already been written. i ask the Lord to guide you and give you peace. AMEN