Jeff: I will remember you and your wife in my prayers. God loves both of you so very much! I've been married for 23 years now. Every time we failed to make the Lord number one in our lives, trouble with our relationship came knocking at the door. The cares of this world, fear, greed, and selfishness always pull us away from our relationship with Christ. My wife and I had to learn to sincerely forgive each other for the things that we did to each other that hurt us, just as God forgives us for the things we do or don't do that are against His will. But, we must be able and willing to say we're sorry, and mean it. And what I mean by that from my own experience is taking an "About face" attitude of walking away from my old habits that are not according to God's will. Seek first God's Kingdom, and all these things will be added to you, according to His will. Take the first step and give your wife a big hug and tell her that you love her! Have faith in God, and remember that the greatest of all the gifts is love, that Jesus laid down His life that we may live, that His gift to us is free for the asking, as He already paid the price "In full." Blessings to you and your wife Jeff!