Well happy new year me and my wife have talk and she wants a divorce she just told me last night that when I had an affair 13 years ago she did also but have a affair 11 y ears ago I was so stun because all these years she has been acting like she never did anything wrong in this marriage. Since this happen with me starting a relationship while I was in mexico and now it has ended I have been closer to God he has showed me a lot of things. I really want my wife and me to work on my marriage with my wife I love her to life but she really wants a divorce she saids but my pastor says don't sign anything because God has not told me to move he says peace be still. I don't know what to do can someone please pray for me because I really want this to work.

ty7kids, i pray that God will restore your and marriage and family, that God will soften her hard heart and turn her to you Lord Jesus, in your mighty Name i pray, Amen

Now my wife heart for me has turn to haterd and dislike I pray for her everyday but it seems the more I pray the more she hates me I really don't know what to do she still talking about divorice and sometimes I feel myself leaving but opgod said no.

In response to your last words "that the more I pray the more she hates me" that my dear man is proof your prayers are being answered. Many people will tell you that when you start praying for something EXPECT A FIGHT!!! HOLD YOUR GROUND THERE IS A BATTLE GOING ON IN THE HEAVENLIES OVER YOUR MARRIAGE.

Thank you for your response I have been dealing with so many question from my wife The lord has showed me the reason why we are going through these problems is because he has a plan for me and my wife he wants us to help families that are going threw the same thing we are when a wife or husband steps outside of his or her marriage we also have 7 kids that would be effected if we get a divorce my wife is so bitter right now she is not even hearing God she would bring up things that happen 17 years ago and I am stun that she has been living in unforgiviness so long I really need your prays because I know prays change things. I love the lord and I know that he has great things instore for me and my wife but to here her talk and say the things she saids it has me wavering wondering is after all these years is this the women that suppose to be the first lady of my future ministry.


God Bless

Lord allow each person in this marriage to see clearly what it is that you require of them to make their marriage work. Give them both the desire to work on their marriage, and allow them to grow closer to you in this difficult time. Amen.

Thanks for your word I am very thankful for all of your prayer and now I sit here wondering what to do I continue to beat myself up because my wife really dislike me how can someone you spend 20 years of your life hurt you with words. I am so thankful that God got me out mexico before all of this got to much with the affair I was told adultry is when you have a cotinue affair with someone and sexuall intercourse.my wife thinks that I had a relationship with this women only thing is how can you tell someone that is not true but they say it came from God. My wife don't even read her bible only talk to people of this word that don't serve God now goes to clubs and started drinking and she don't even wear her wedding rings anymore so stuck don't know what to do but pray and sometimes that is hard to pray for someone that is against you.

Well I talk to my wife last night and ask her to forgive me for everything I ever said and did to hurt her she said no and on top of that she said she rather sleep with. Stanger then her own husband now how do I deal with a women that feels that way about her husband it is a fight against the enemy everyday