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Pray for my marriage, PLEASE!
Please, please, PLEASE,
Pray for MY marriage! I have been using pornography for over two decades and it has put terrible strain on my marriage. My wife's self-esteem plummeted because of me and she has been very hurt. Recently, she began having an affair. Now, she believes that she loves this other man and wants to leave our country with him! I am now trying sincerely to get help. But, please, pray that her heart returns to me! Pray, please, that this other man's conscience bothers him. Pray, please, for our marital healing! Pray that my heart would be purified and freed from pornography. Pray that my wife would have her seared conscience healed and that she would recognize that what she wants is sinful! Pray that we can come together again and renew of vows and remake a new covenant together!
Sincerely,
Matthew (and my wife is Mary Beth)
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| 11-16-2010 03:54 PM |
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RE: Pray for my marriage, PLEASE!
Father, please help this man to fall deeply in love with your son Jesus that he may be infused with power to conquer this addiction. Touch this wife that she might know what your plan is for her life. Let her understand the value of the vows that she took before you...and let her surrender to your will for her life. Let her husband not look at the speck in her eye but see the plank in his own that his sin as the Spiritual head of this woman opened the door for the enemy to come in and create this havoc. Let him pray for her to love Jesus more than she loves him or herself for only through that can this seducing spirit in her midst be broken and outcast. Bring restoration to this marriage that you may ge glorified. In Jesus name...Amen!
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Thank you for the realization given this morning about how we pray about our troubled marriages. How I wish I had understood this some years ago when I was praying for my own. Forgive me for praying so selfishly then about what I wanted my ex-husband to do while he was caught up in adultery because of my own broken heart, my EROS love for him and my own pain and desires...that I missed the true mark. Perhaps the growth you have provided over these last 8 years can help others? I pray that it will...and I pray that earnest prayers, from many prayer warriors to reclaim those that have strayed from God will bring movement in many hearts... some of stone and some that are broken... and repair to many homes on the verge of collapse.
Speak life into these marriages. Turn hearts away from fraudulent partners and back to those to whom vows of fidelity were made. Give this husband or wife a rock solid understanding of what he/she is dealing with. This is not a battle with people who influence, other women or other men; it is one against spiritual wickedness among powers and principalities in high places...there is oppression operating against this wife or husband from these powers and principalities to turn their free will against God. They may not recognize it, but as I pray, this is what I am led to say. For the husband or wife of one who has strayed, I pray that he/she understands that there can be no breakthrough until this spouse is right with God. It is not about them loving in an EROS way this spouse they have left behind or the person with whom they are currently involved. It is not about them returning to this marriage or staying in an unholy relationship...rather it is about their returning to a relationship with Christ. Unless and until they recognize that they are in opposition to the Lord...His will and His ways...there will be no change in the current outcome and in fact it may become worse. This fallen spouse believes that their actions are right...okay...in their sight. They believe it as strongly as the one who has been left behind and wants reconciliation believes. He/she has been convinced by this evil oppression that what he/she is doing is somehow justified. As long as this husband/wife who has been left continues the quest, even in prayer for EROS love as their focus...there will be no change in the behavior of the other. By definition EROS love is that which is fueled by selfish desire...we want those we love to love us back, to share intimacy with us and us only...and this is both natural and human and ultimately what God intends in the marriage relationship...but the need within the one that has strayed that will return HIM or HER to righteousness is for AGAPE love to return...loving themselves as God loves them, loving their spouses as God loves them also...continuance of marriage is NOT a condition for AGAPE love...nothing is...it is unconditional. When we pray in this circumstance...we can and should pray for the return of this straying partner to their marriage...but first things first, as our God does things decently and in order. Let us pray for a return of the straying spouse to God...to His principles, to reverence for Him. When we revere God we cannot go against his ways. The heart of stone that currently exists in the breast of the one who is unfaithful is because their conscience has been seared...and continuance of this is exactly what the enemy wants. Let us bombard heaven with prayers to bring the unfaithful ones back to Jesus...let us ask for them to see themselves through the eyes of Jesus...let us ask that they see how HIS spirit is grieved because of their actions, not our own grief...let us ask for them to see that they are throwing His love, His sacrifice out the window due to their own quest for EROs which can and will bring chaos and destruction into their lives and those in their families... as it already has. These unfaithful husbands and wives are beyond the reach of what their spouses want right now...they no longer care about it...they are deeply engaged in her their own selfish quests to have what THEY want. But they are not beyond the reach of God. Let us pray with all our might that those who have broken their vows fall in love with Jesus again! If they do...if they get back into God's order...the order of the decency of God...their free will can be directed again by the Lord of Hosts...and their return to their marriages, where they belong can again become possible. This I believe...and it is this I pray. In Jesus name...Amen!
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| 11-16-2010 05:24 PM |
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RE: Pray for my marriage, PLEASE!
You deserve everything that's coming your way for being such a weak minded man, and not loving your wife the way Jesus loves us as the bible instructs us to do. Read the book of proverbs so you can learn and gain some wisdom. May God have mercy on you and help your wife.
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| 11-16-2010 05:45 PM |
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