DavidHagen
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I'm about to lose my marriage and family, I need help...
I need prayer for my marriage and family. My wife has fallen in love with a man on Facebook. We've been married for 14 years and have three children. She told me she loves him more than me but she wants to keep to our marriage vows because it's the right thing to do. She said she also doesn't want to hurt the children but wants so much to leave them and me to run away and be with this man since her life would be so much simpler without us. I'm devastated. I've asked her to stop communicating with him so we can work on our marriage. Just tonight she wrote to him telling him she misses him and that she can’t bear being away from him. I'm getting my heart ripped out, over and over and I can't keep going through this. I just don't think she's going to be able to escape the clutches of Satan on this one. May God change her heart. I pray we can stay together, but if not I pray that God gives me the strength to accept the inevitable, the power to move on and the strength to be a single parent. Please pray for us. Thank you.
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| 08-09-2010 12:35 AM |
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adoring1
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RE: I'm about to lose my marriage and family, I need help...
Father, I offer this prayer for Dan and for every believer who is experiencing trials within their marriage. Be strong in the Lord and pray unselfishly...consider these thoughts...prayerfully and know that we will be praying with you....God bless...
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Thank you for the realization given this morning about how we pray about our troubled marriages. How I wish I had understood this some years ago when I was praying for my own. Forgive me for praying so selfishly then about what I wanted my ex-husband to do while he was caught up in adultery because of my own broken heart, my EROS love for him and my own pain and desires...that I missed the true mark. Perhaps the growth you have provided over these last 8 years can help others? I pray that it will...and I pray that earnest prayers, from many prayer warriors to reclaim those that have strayed from God will bring movement in many hearts... some of stone and some that are broken... and repair to many homes on the verge of collapse.
Speak life into these marriages. Turn hearts away from fraudulent partners and back to those to whom vows of fidelity were made. Give this husband or wife a rock solid understanding of what he/she is dealing with. This is not a battle with people who influence, other women or other men; it is one against spiritual wickedness among powers and principalities in high places...there is oppression operating against this wife or husband from these powers and principalities to turn their free will against God. They may not recognize it, but as I pray, this is what I am led to say. For the husband or wife of one who has strayed, I pray that he/she understands that there can be no breakthrough until this spouse is right with God. It is not about them loving in an EROS way this spouse they have left behind or the person with whom they are currently involved. It is not about them returning to this marriage or staying in an unholy relationship...rather it is about their returning to a relationship with Christ. Unless and until they recognize that they are in opposition to the Lord...His will and His ways...there will be no change in the current outcome and in fact it may become worse. This fallen spouse believes that their actions are right...okay...in their sight. They believe it as strongly as the one who has been left behind and wants reconciliation believes. He/she has been convinced by this evil oppression that what he/she is doing is somehow justified. As long as this husband/wife who has been left continues the quest, even in prayer for EROS love as their focus...there will be no change in the behavior of the other. By definition EROS love is that which is fueled by selfish desire...we want those we love to love us back, to share intimacy with us and us only...and this is both natural and human and ultimately what God intends in the marriage relationship...but the need within the one that has strayed that will return HIM or HER to righteousness is for AGAPE love to return...loving themselves as God loves them, loving their spouses as God loves them also...continuance of marriage is NOT a condition for AGAPE love...nothing is...it is unconditional. When we pray in this circumstance...we can and should pray for the return of this straying partner to their marriage...but first things first, as our God does things decently and in order. Let us pray for a return of the straying spouse to God...to His principles, to reverence for Him. When we revere God we cannot go against his ways. The heart of stone that currently exists in the breast of the one who is unfaithful is because their conscience has been seared...and continuance of this is exactly what the enemy wants. Let us bombard heaven with prayers to bring the unfaithful ones back to Jesus...let us ask for them to see themselves through the eyes of Jesus...let us ask that they see how HIS spirit is grieved because of their actions, not our own grief...let us ask for them to see that they are throwing His love, His sacrifice out the window due to their own quest for EROs which can and will bring chaos and destruction into their lives and those in their families... as it already has. These unfaithful husbands and wives are beyond the reach of what their spouses want right now...they no longer care about it...they are deeply engaged in her their own selfish quests to have what THEY want. But they are not beyond the reach of God. Let us pray with all our might that those who have broken their vows fall in love with Jesus again! If they do...if they get back into God's order...the order of the decency of God...their free will can be directed again by the Lord of Hosts...and their return to their marriages, where they belong can again become possible. This I believe...and it is this I pray. In Jesus name...Amen!
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| 08-09-2010 07:01 AM |
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RE: I'm about to lose my marriage and family, I need help...
David, there is a christian movie and book called Fireproof. Perhaps watching this movie and acquiring this book will help you. Lord please release this woman from this ungodly bond. Falling in love with someone you have not met is not realistic. I pray that she would open her eyes and return her love to her husband and that you would reconcile their marriage and restore it. In Jesus name I pray.
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| 08-09-2010 03:02 PM |
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RE: I'm about to lose my marriage and family, I need help...
Proclaim the confessions given below. God's word never fails!
Isaiah 54:17
No weapon formed against __________________’s and my marriage will prosper and every
tongue raised against our reconciliation, God is showing in the wrong, for this is my heritage as
a child of God and my righteousness is from Him.
Jeremiah 1:12
Father, I thank You that You are hastening Your Word in my marriage in Jesus’ name.
Luke 18:8
I thank You, Father, for speedily avenging Your Word in my marriage in Jesus’ name.
II Chronicles 16:9
I thank You, Father, for showing Yourself strong on behalf of my marriage and reconciliation
with _____________________ for I am perfect in Jesus.
Joel 2:25, Isaiah 61:7; Proverbs 6:31
I praise You, Father, in Jesus’ name for restoring to _____________________ and me
everything the enemy stole, including our (list what Satan has stolen from you), and I thank You
that instead of shame we have a double portion. I see everything restored with the eye of my
faith according to Your Word.
Luke 21:15
Satan cannot overcome me for You have given me a mouth and wisdom. The enemy cannot
gainsay or resist in Jesus’ name.
Matthew 16:18; Acts 19:20
I thank You, Father, that the gates of hell are not prevailing against me and my marriage, for I
am the church, and Jesus said that the gates of hell would not prevail against me. Therefore, the
Word of God is prevailing in _____________________’s and my marriage, according to Your
promises in these scriptures in the mighty name of Jesus.
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| 08-09-2010 03:29 PM |
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