My husband and I have been married 23 years, it will be 24 years Dec. 20, 2010! He cheated on me 9 years ago, while buliding our home!!
I kicked him out for 2 months, I forgave him for his infidelity with the Lords help!! I had just about started trusting him again when I found Love letters from a girl he works with!!
He said that they were just friends, but friends don't sign letters with xoxoxo's!! I called this person and left a message stating that he was married, she supposedly didn't know!! But he had already taken his wedding ring off!! I told him that just because he removed his ring it doesn't mean that he isn't still married!!
I really do LOVE HIM!! He has since moved out!! He is living with his dad, His mom passed away in June and he took it very hard!! He says that he loves me but he is not in love with me!! But if something should happen than he drops what ever he is doing and comes home to help!!
I feel that he still does love me, but that he is depressed over losing his mom, he is confused, and he is going through another middle age crisis!!
He says that he does not beleive in God, since God doesn't protect from bad things!! He does need help!! I know that his mom is in heaven, but he doesn't beleive there is one!!
He also says that he is not happy, and that he can't be himself!!
But when he is here I always have him laughing, as for being himself than who have I lived with for 23, almost 24 years!!
He is hanging out with his nephew who is 20 years old, but he is 50 years old!!

I want him to be happy, but I also need him to come home!!
Please help me with my husband!!
Please help him to forgive himself, let him know that even though he doesn't want to hurt me anymore he is by moving out and staying away!!
He says that he needs time away to work through his problems, but I can help him if he would let me!!
I did change the locks on the house, but just because I did'n't want to come home and find everything of his gone!!
Now he is angry about that, I will give him keys if and when he should come home!!!
Please help us! I know and feel that this is alot, But I really do LOVE HIM And I REALLY MISS HIM ALOT!!!
Please say a prayer and maybe light some candles!!
My daughter also needs some prayers, you see when I kicked him 9 years ago he had taken her and our son bowling with his girlfriend, but it was on our daughter's 10 birthday!! It ruined her birthday and she has not forgivenn him to this day!! She is 19 yrs now, I thought she had forgiven him, just found out that she hasn't!!
Plus, she does not want us together because of that incident!! And I think that she is the one causing most of the problems!! You see I work night-shift and when I would call to talk to him she would not tell him that I called or have him call me back!!

Please PRAY FOR THIS FAMILY!!
ME, MY HUSBAND, and MY DAUGHTER!!!!
My husband to beleive in GOD again, help with his confusion, and to bring him back home!!
My daughter to forgive her dad, and to forgive me!!!

My sister, why would you want this man to return to you in this condition? Yes we should pray for this marriage to be saved...but he is not ready...he is not repentant and he will not be until he falls in love with Jesus. I hope that the prayer below will help you to understand what you are dealing with and that it will help you to focus your prayers for your husband. Father, please mend this woman's heart and that of her daughter...and give her wisdom and discernment in dealing with her circumstances...bless her richly Father that she might stand against the enemy...

Father,

Thank you for the realization given this morning about how we pray about our troubled marriages. How I wish I had understood this some years ago when I was praying for my own. Forgive me for praying so selfishly then about what I wanted my ex-husband to do while he was caught up in adultery because of my own broken heart, my EROS love for him and my own pain and desires...that I missed the true mark. Perhaps the growth you have provided over these last 8 years can help others? I pray that it will...and I pray that earnest prayers, from many prayer warriors to reclaim those that have strayed from God will bring movement in many hearts... some of stone and some that are broken... and repair to many homes on the verge of collapse.

Speak life into these marriages. Turn hearts away from fraudulent partners and back to those to whom vows of fidelity were made. Give this husband or wife a rock solid understanding of what he/she is dealing with. This is not a battle with people who influence, other women or other men; it is one against spiritual wickedness among powers and principalities in high places...there is oppression operating against this wife or husband from these powers and principalities to turn their free will against God. They may not recognize it, but as I pray, this is what I am led to say. For the husband or wife of one who has strayed, I pray that he/she understands that there can be no breakthrough until this spouse is right with God. It is not about them loving in an EROS way this spouse they have left behind or the person with whom they are currently involved. It is not about them returning to this marriage or staying in an unholy relationship...rather it is about their returning to a relationship with Christ. Unless and until they recognize that they are in opposition to the Lord...His will and His ways...there will be no change in the current outcome and in fact it may become worse. This fallen spouse believes that their actions are right...okay...in their sight. They believe it as strongly as the one who has been left behind and wants reconciliation believes. He/she has been convinced by this evil oppression that what he/she is doing is somehow justified. As long as this husband/wife who has been left continues the quest, even in prayer for EROS love as their focus...there will be no change in the behavior of the other. By definition EROS love is that which is fueled by selfish desire...we want those we love to love us back, to share intimacy with us and us only...and this is both natural and human and ultimately what God intends in the marriage relationship...but the need within the one that has strayed that will return HIM or HER to righteousness is for AGAPE love to return...loving themselves as God loves them, loving their spouses as God loves them also...continuance of marriage is NOT a condition for AGAPE love...nothing is...it is unconditional. When we pray in this circumstance...we can and should pray for the return of this straying partner to their marriage...but first things first, as our God does things decently and in order. Let us pray for a return of the straying spouse to God...to His principles, to reverence for Him. When we revere God we cannot go against his ways. The heart of stone that currently exists in the breast of the one who is unfaithful is because their conscience has been seared...and continuance of this is exactly what the enemy wants. Let us bombard heaven with prayers to bring the unfaithful ones back to Jesus...let us ask for them to see themselves through the eyes of Jesus...let us ask that they see how HIS spirit is grieved because of their actions, not our own grief...let us ask for them to see that they are throwing His love, His sacrifice out the window due to their own quest for EROs which can and will bring chaos and destruction into their lives and those in their families... as it already has. These unfaithful husbands and wives are beyond the reach of what their spouses want right now...they no longer care about it...they are deeply engaged in her their own selfish quests to have what THEY want. But they are not beyond the reach of God. Let us pray with all our might that those who have broken their vows fall in love with Jesus again! If they do...if they get back into God's order...the order of the decency of God...their free will can be directed again by the Lord of Hosts...and their return to their marriages, where they belong can again become possible. This I believe...and it is this I pray. In Jesus name...Amen!