Hello I was in a relationship with a very emotionally abusive man for three years. We broke up when we both decided to dedicate our lives to Jesus. For me, it was a re-dedication. We ceased fornication. We ceased lying and completely changed. Over the past 7 months we have just been best friends. He knows everything about me. He knows my deepest secrets, my fears and my regrets. We embarked on a spiritual journey together. We pray together. We work together. We see each other everyday and also after work. During our romantic relationship, this man was very emotionally abusive, often condemning me and using scripture to do it. He also eroded my self-esteem by always accusing me of lying and criticizing the way I talk, the way I smile and my love of art. I did not realize that I was being emotionally abused until now. Throughout our relationship I walked on eggshells trying not to evoke his verbal wrath! When we became friends, he began to change. I truly thought that God was working on him and me. I loved praying and studying together. But right after Easter, he changed again and he criticized me and threw my past in my face! I cried and cried. I felt worthless and condemned. He apologized and now is "stonewalling" me / giving me "the silent treatment". He ignores my calls and texts, he refuses to pray with me, he is rude to me at work. I keep praying for him and asking what is wrong? I ask what can I do to resolve our issues? He is silent. Not one word since Easter. He sucks his teeth and looks at me with disgust when I walk in the room at work. He has ostracized me and has made me fearful of going to work. Everyone sees how he is treating me and some have even joined in on the fun of shutting me out. I feel like such a loser. I pray everyday for strength and resolution. My heart is heavy. I even brought him a gift with some scriptures about friendship and love and he pushed it aside. I realize now that the silent treatment is a form of emotional abuse. He looks at me with disgust and makes it obvious that he is angry with me but won't talk. I'm embarrassed and ashamed. I spent hours in my office crying and praying, afraid to run into him in the hall. I've prayed for strength and healing. Ive been absent from work and I have to go back tomorrow. The last text that I sent him told him that I was praying for him and that the way that he is treating me does not come from God and is not out of love. (Scriptures used to support this). No response. I don't want to be subjected to his negative energy. When we have to communicate, he basically talks down to me like he does not even know me.
I am afraid to go to work because when I see him, he looks right through me, slams doors, refuses to get on the elevator if I'm on it. He towers over me at 6 foot 3 and talks to me with disdain. I don't know what happened?
Pray for me to cleanse my heart of the fear and pray for me to be able to have the strength to go into work and to ignore this man's wicked spirit. He goes to church 3 - 4 times a week. He knows his Bible and this is truly sad. Everyday I eat alone. I pray alone. We did everything together, now its an emptiness.
Please pray for my healing and my strength to recover. And pray for him to grow in Christ and abandon this ostracizing mission for that is not of Christ.
I thank you! I trust that this will work.
Thank YOU
