I feel dead inside. My husband will not communicate with me. He does not touch me. I am empty. How does one love love unconditionaly? How can 2 christians live without love? He will not get help and is a workaholic. I am withdrawing more and more. So far no amount of prayer has brought a change. I cannot say more. Need answers.

It seems like "adoring1" is praying for everyone else on the list except you. Hmmm.

Father, living in a home with a mate who will not communicate is very difficult...living in a marriage that does not include loving expression in words, deeds and touch is not of you. Father...please lead this wife to your throne room and minister to her...help her to see who she is in your eyes at this time and not judge herself, her marriage or her husband through her own. Heal the hurt that lurks beneath the surface of her words...and lead her to the answer to her question in Your word. How do you love unconditionally?...Your word teaches that to do so, we must love as Jesus did. This wife like so many of us has been wounded by the careless behavior of her mate. But she has a choice...to stay stuck in the valley of injury or to build a life that is centered around you. Pray for others...be the hands and feet of Jesus in the lives of others. Develop God focused friendships with other women who have experienced similar issues...but most of all to never stop praying for her husband...and those prayers may need some adjustment. Mine certainly did. The Father wants to act in our behalf...but he desires that our prayers be in line with His word. What is most important to the Father? That we worship Him, and praise Him and Love Him. Seek ye first the kingdom of God....and then He will... (so says his word)...When we pray for those we love who have lost their way, we need to pray that our loved ones find their way back to Him, that they develop a reverence for Him, for His Word, for His ways. From what you have written dear Guest...your husband has lost himself in his work. The word says that where the heart is there his treasure is also. If our heart is with the Father, then He is our treasure...and if He is...he hears our prayers and He will answer us. But if our hearts are elsewhere, then so is our treasure...and we often do not heed or even hear His voice. My sweet sister, where is your husband's heart? If it is outside of the Father then pray for his heart to be quickened by the Lord. Pray that the Father teaches him in whatever way His will dictates that He is to be your husband's first love. Pray without ceasing that this man you were given comes to know, respect, love and follow his Creator. For if this happens...all other good things will follow. The Father says...for my sheep know my voice...pray that your husband learns to hear and heed the Father...then and only then...will he become the leader, friend and lover you crave. It is hard I know...I have been there...but it is the way of our Lord...and it is the definition of unconditional love...praying for the best of he or she for whom we pray...no matter what we receive or do not. Jesus died for us and never asked for anything in return. He knew who would love Him and whom would not...but He died for us all. Be encouraged my sister...God loves you...and so do the people of God. In Jesus name...seek your blessing. Amen!

Dear Lord is it hard! I too have been there, but when I turned my husband to God and allowed God to guide my life, it was then that things turned around in my marriage. With my husband was not only his job but another woman, but God heard my pleas for my husband's salvation and he answered my prayers. It took fourteen long years but God was faithful as I too kept faithful to my Savior. Listen to Adoring1 she is right.
Dear Lord listen to the prayers of this lonely and hurting wife. Answer her as you did with my prayers, but I pray that she won't have to wait as long as me. Give her strength and comfort, also wisdom on how to win her husband's love and affection back. In Jesus name I pray amen.

Lord Jesus. I pray more of you into this situation. I pray that the resentment, bitterness etc that has built up over the years be cast out by your love. I pray that this couple seeks help - Christian Help and that you alone breathe new life into their marriage so that they can become hope to other Christian couples. So often we want the spouse to change, when the truth is that only we can change ourselves and so shine Christ into the lives of our spouse. In the name of Jesus, I ask for healing in this union. AMEN.

If you are still listening. I have been in this pain for over 20 years.

Turn it over to God and he will give you peace of mind and healing. Once you are healed spiritually, God can start working in your husband and marriage too. Turn it all to Him and He will make your burdens lighter. In God's eyes no one is more special than another, it's up to us to allow him answer our prayers.

20 years is a long time and I am sorry you are in this position but DONT GIVE UP. Hand it over to God, work on whay makes you happy within the marriage. Hand your husband over to God and start praying to God to help you change what needs to be changed and to work in your husbands life...and believe it will get better...and watch God work. I know how lonely you must be and my heart goes out to you, it does, but as two Christians in marriage, God has so much more for you. Believe this. AMEN.