Steven, my own feelings is that when it is right you will know it. Do not expect perfection though because it does not exist. It doesn't sound like that is what you are after.
Answers come much more easily when we stay in The Word, live a life that is pleasing to God in all our affairs. Trust in His Timing.
Don't worry, "about tomorrow, let tomorrow take care of itself." If you are not married to her & she is not demonstrating the desire to be commited in her actions, this may be a sign from God that she is not the right one for you.
Work to solidify your life with your Christian friends, church, your life. Allow things to unfold over time. Be that solid example of a Godly man.
No matter, this way, your child will look up to you, those you are around will see you as a good solid Christian man. If this is meant to be a marriage it will unfold systematically.
Allow The Bible to be your guide & help you set boundaries. It will work out beautifully orchestrated. We have an enormous amount of power when we align our lives with JESUS CHRIST. God Is Light & Love & He Shines Forever! Trust in Him & make choices wisely, slowly, confidently. We are successful when we live for CHRIST!
God Bless you.
(05-26-2011 04:19 PM)godsgift Wrote: please pray for the right desition. i have been seperated from the mother of my child now for 2 years after she left me because i had alcohol and drug issues i was also abusive and jelous and controling towards her.i went into rehab to sort my issues out and she promised to stand by me when i came out.when i did come out after 5 months she was very distant we desided a make or break holiday when we was coming home we said we would give it a go but 3 days after arriving home she said she didnt want to be with me anymore it hurt me so bad i relapsed and went away for a few months she said she wanted me back to my sister so i came back. when i started showing interest again she played games .mybe she didnt know what to do or if it was the right desition i dont know, anyway i said that i wouldnt go through anymore pain and went back away i came back about 4 weeks later and she had met someone else which really hurt me emencly.its now been 2 years and i still have feeling for her when i see her and she said to me the other day she wanted to give it another go via text not in those direct terms but said she had put her life on hold to try again with me but i shrugged it off because i felt she hadnt because she went with someone else she now tells me didnt mean anything to her and she was lonely and needed support and he was there when she needed it shes 26 he is 19,so maybe i believe that ??? what do i do please pray that god will guide me and show me the way and bring her back if it is gods will or provide a life partner for me,i im now a re born christian after giving my life to jesus and activley pray for others and attend church every sunday i am saved and freed from alcohol and drugs and my life has turned around praise jesus thank you for your prayers god bless. her name is gillian and my name is steven
