January 21, 2012
Please pray for my daily Miracles through 2/02/2012
My name is Tanja, kindly read below email trail...with some of text messages when I was trying to talk to my soon to be ex-husband in reference to finding marijuana in our son’s backpack.
MY EMAIL to husband for 19 years in reference to our only son (16 y.o.Daniel)
My husband left our marriage 6 days before surgical procedure on my heart last July 2011 (my heartbeat was recorded at 284 beats per minute). He took all furnishings he wanted (all in good condition, but he did leave me a few pieces of broken furnishings), he also took our 16 y/o son, and his own 1 gallon bag full of marijuana.
"Gene,
I have made several attempts this morning via your cell phone trying to communicate with you, but you refused stating: "Just text me watever u need 2 say." And "U can text me. I hv nothing to say to u. Ur need for attention is getting quite old" then I stated; "What I need to talk to u has nothing to do about me or as u say above "my need for attention" listen to my words in the last voice message I just left for u and call me back ASAP" you responded: "I hv no desire to hear ur voice." I then texted: "I share your desire BUT what I have to talk to u is urgent and more important" and your responded: "Call 911 if u r having an emergency.".
Last night I found what I think is marijuana in our son's backpack which he left in my car. Please see attached pictures. I flushed it down a toilette in front of Daniel. I told him that having marijuana in his possession is wrong and that I will not tolerate this. I also told him I did not want to bring this issue in front of his girlfriend and that's why I waited for us to be alone (I was making sure not to embarrass him and trying to teach him common courtesy). I also asked him if you are aware of this and he told me that you are not. His first reaction was how now he will have to pay $20.00. Then he said he was holding this (marijuana) for one of his friends. Then he stated how he wants me to immediately drive him to your apartment. Once we were in my car Daniel told me how he had no idea how marijuana got in his backpack and that he was set up. Daniel said he thought that I placed marijuana in his backpack to set him up. To this statement I told our son that I always have and always will hate drugs, that I love him more than anything on this earth and that I did not and never would do such a thing. Daniel asked me how I can prove what I say…I told him I have pictures (see attached – he witnessed me take picture while flushing marijuana down the toilette). During our drive to your apartment Daniel requested of me to erase pictures in order for him to trust me. I did give him my cell phone and he erased the pictures, but somehow they got saved anyway. After he thought that he erased pictures from my cell phone, on his way out of my car (in front of your apartment by this time), Daniel told me how he still does not know if he can trust me.
I appreciate you calling me back earlier. Per our conversation you stated that Daniel told you all about what happened last night and you insinuated that I am not telling the truth (as you have also insinuated about the event that happened on Christmas day). You also told me that I don’t have boundaries, when I asked you to explain what you mean by this statement and what are you referring to; you stated that you have to go and don’t have time to talk about this anymore, then you hung up.
My goal is to teach our only son Daniel;
1. Not to lie
2. Not to use drugs
3. To respect my boundaries when I say “No”
Gene, this is very concerning to me as a parent and it should be to you as well. It is very important that we inform each other and communicate issues regarding Daniel and his well being."
MY HUSBAND RESPONSE;
"Our son is not smoking marijuana, I have talked to him at great length about this and I believe what he has to say more than you. If he were he would tell me, because there is no reason not to. Therefore I find the information you are trying to convey to me to be a falsehood which attacks our sons character further than what you have already done in the court papers you served me with. You obviously have an agenda here which you are trying to perpetuate, and I refuse to play this game. Our son is a healthy individual in both mind and body and your actions thus far are trying to prove otherwise so you can get what you want vis a vis the court system. If you would stop trying to manipulate the system and start trying to behave like a mom who's only concern is our sons well being I would be happy to hear out your grievances but until that happens please refrain from spreading these lies, as they are affecting our son negatively."
I RESPONDED;
“1. The truth will always prevail...sooner or later
2. I didn't mentioned anything about our son's character
3. Our son is a teen going through a very tough times in his life that requires lots of love, patience, strong and positive parental support, communication, understanding, compromises, clear boundaries..
4. I am truthfully making every attempt to communicate to you about true event that took place last night; Friday, January 20, 2012 (not "grievances" as you stated below)
5. How exactly are you planing to handle our son's problem?
I am saddened and very concerned after reading your email below of the fact that I have obviously failed with my task to effectively communicate as parent/co-parent with you (once again) in order to help our son.
I have said this many times and will always continue to remind you; I love Daniel more than anything on this earth and I will continue to do everything in my power to prove (by my actions) that I have best interest in heart for his well being.”


In the past Gene often said (to me, our son and his friends) how it is ok to use alcohol and marijuana as long as you use it responsibly (Gene has been a user for the last almost 20 years). I hate drugs. Daniel has been diagnosed with high functional Asbergers and chronic ADD but he does not want to acknowledge this fact, just like his father as of last July when my husband also cheated on me (again) but this time in front of our only son and neighbors present at the time. (Their bodies were touching together, his hands massaging her breasts, her bottom behind was rubbing and swinging against his front pubic area. Their heads were touching too. They did wear swimming pool clothing. One of the neighbors saw me and stepped in front of my view…he saw my face so I like to think that he tried to help me). This I witnessed 3 days after the surgical procedure on my heart.
My home is currently in pre-foreclosure status. Gene also ruined our credit by not paying some of the bills, and is probably planning to file for bankruptcy (again). Gene has also requested of me and with the court for me to pay him for child support (our next court hearing/trial is on 2/02/2012). Our son Daniel is okay with me to be paying his father for child support...but I don't think he knows the true meaning behind this. I submitted pictures of how my home looked like after their move...pictures worth thousands of words. I was told how a dog is treated better than I was by my husband...all he left was his trash... Neither of us have an attorney. Gene makes more than 3 times more than the amount I receive from disability. I found out from my son Daniel that he read documents I submitted with the court on December 22, 2011 (57 pages of truth and exhibits and pictures as proof that also do not lie). Gene must have left certain portion of these documents in his home on a visible area, our son found it and read it. After he’s read it, Daniel talked to his father. My son Daniel told me how he is angry with me, feels exploited (because I shared with the court that he has been using marijuana and has been having sex with the same girls from his former best friend, and how his father knew about our son’s drug abuse because he cut Daniel on one of those occasions). Daniel is also upset with me because of my truthful statement to the court; “Honorable Judge, anyone can easily deceive a teen; it is easy for the Petitioner to control and manipulate our teen son, who has Asperger Syndrome and has compulsive obsessive behavior. Daniel is also very impressed by his father’s long term marijuana use and immoral actions and has repeatedly stated how he wants to be just like his father.” Daniel also told me how I don’t have any proof that his father knew about his drug abuse and that now he will have to go to the court to tell the judge that I am not telling the truth.

Please pray for my faith, love, knowledge, sanity, confidence, strength, words I use (English is my 3rd language), and my trust in Dear Lord to continue to grow in miraculous speed and for healing in every way (spiritual, emotional and physical).
Please pray for miraculous financial aid/help ((I ran out of money for food, gas, medical expenses such as; medication, doctor visits ($30.00 per visit-I have every 2 weeks), specialist visits ($50.00 per visit-I have twice per month), counselor visits ($50.00 per visit-I have twice per week), visits until end of January)). My current health insurance I have through my soon to be ex-husband.
Please pray for miraculous new health, dental and vision insurance for myself and my son Daniel with affordable co-pay.
Please pray for miraculous help with some broken items that need repair and some still needed items in my home such as; my refrigerator is freezing my food/vegetables, my computer is still not working properly, my iPhone fell and broke during a bible study, there is a bump sticking out on one of the tires of my car, my home phones are broken and I can’t pick up a call (this is how I communicate with my mom in Croatia), two of my windows are letting cold and/or hot air in and the sides are broken so it’s very hard to open or close a window, my kitchen cabinet doesn’t close all the way, I have been blessed to be able to borrow a tv and a radio with working cd, but it would be nice to be able to return these items I borrowed to their owner (if you know of someone that is giving away cookware, a pillow, a tv with working dvr (or is it dvd player) and a stereo/radio with working cd…miscellaneous home stuff… please send them my way).
Please pray that Dear Lord take care of my home situation/problem – my home is currently in pre-foreclosure status with possibility to keep it (I was offered payments for about $1,500.00 per month) if I receive additional funds (fair spousal support as I stated in my latest declaration to the court) I will be able to afford these payments.
Please pray that Dear Lord fights for me, and speaks for me during the court trial on 2/02/12. During this trial proceeding it will be determined; child custody, child support -my ex is requesting for me to pay him and he earns more than three times more than I do, and spousal support for me)...I have always had a fear from law and speaking in front of law (I grew up in communistic country) last time I was there I lost my words and thoughts while trying to speak to the judge…I froze…this happened last September 2011.
Please pray for the truth to come out about Gene’s malicious/sick & selfish actions and attempts to wrongfully accuse me about my true attentions for our only son, and deceiving our son in attempt to alienate me out of his life…also please pray that my son Daniel accepts the truth over his father’s lies
Please pray that the judge orders the special program called “Wraparound”; a team of positive people including a youth partner as a healthy role-model for Daniel.
Please pray that the judge at Superior Court of Orange in California review all exhibits I submitted with my proofs, orders more (such as; Gene’s tax returns for 2011, Gene’s banking & credit card statements) to prove that Gene lied on his Income and Expense Declaration (he admitted this to me himself), sees through all other Gene’s lies and deceptions, and for the judge to not order me to pay my (soon to be) ex-husband for child support, but instead for Gene to pay me for spousal support (starting as of last year when I was denied with this request due to lack of current Income and Expense Declaration-last one was filed with the court in 2008).
Please pray for my son and for his healing in every way.
Please pray that the judge orders weekly drug testing’s for my son Daniel (and maybe even for his father), and a physical exam by the doctor to prove that he has been himself afflicting cuts and burns on his left forearm.
Please pray also for the truth about Gene’s girlfriend, her aggressive personality (that he cheated with) and her attack on me last August, to come out in the open…and how he manhandled me during this occasion stating in front of her how I got what I deserved.
Please pray that the truth about Gene breaking ac in our home before his move comes out too (I had heat blisters on my body last summer, and when it cooled down (after losing almost 20 lbs) I was so cold that I got muscle, tendons and nerve inflammation in my whole upper body and hands.
Please pray for my son’s father Gene and for Dear Lord to bring him on his knees, open his eyes to real truth, gives him conscience so that he can repent for his sins, for Dear Lord to soften and melt his heart and to heal him.
Please pray for Dear Lord to send a wholly spirit to my son and his father so they can be saved, and for them to accept our Dear Father God as their Lord.
Please pray for Dear Lord to remove all evil and sin away from me and Daniel and Gene, and for restoration and healing in every way...especially for my son Daniel.
I know our Lord has a plan and path for me…this plan is beyond my knowledge and/or understanding, but I know that He has an open door for me and is directing me toward this open door.
I thank Dear Lord for making so easy and clear for me to walk the path He wants me to take.
I thank Dear Lord for carrying me when I have no more strength in me
I thank Dear Lord for pouring His love, mercy, glory and blessing my way.
I thank Dear Lord for being my protector against all evil and sin as well as my Christian family full of prayer warriors (my family is far overseas).

Thank you for your prayers! God Bless!