This is going to sound crazy but me and my soon to be ex live next to each other, the houses. I have no career and he's an assistant manager in a restaurant, he's in lots of debt with mortgage on our house and tax liens about $12000 on his house plus he's still paying utilities for this house and buying groceries (food and necessities). He says he wants to keep it like this except for the groceries, me and mom can buy those things when she gets her money and I get job. That sounds like an excellent deal but I don't trust him, he's always gets behind on mortgage and it feels like he has all the control. I feel like a child and I feel like a leech, I feel guilty. He said he can claim me for 2016 taxes next year even after we're divorced if he's paying everything plus claim kids again even after I get job this year. If I sue him for custody and get custody and support I can claim kids on my taxes as custodial parent and take child credit and because I owe about $10,000 on credit cards that got cancelled after he stopped paying, I could use some of that over 2/3 year period to pay off also. My husband won't even give me half of joint tax return. Credit cards want their money not payments, I don't think I'll have extra after paying bills to send money to them and one card sued me and got judgment and I can't open bank account because of this or they'll freeze it. My husband leaves around 4:30 for work and home around 2:30 am, don't want his girlfriend/mistress watching kids. Ive been with the kids all these years while he spent his days off drinking 6 years, AA meetings last 9 1/2 years and of those 9 1/2 years past 2 years he has spent more time with kids on days off but also shoving his girlfriend on them. He should get custody because of money??! Please please pray God sends me some job I can live on besides minimum wage and can also get support to help out and maybe either fix my house up or find a decent 3 bedroom apartment for me, mom and kids that is affordable and I can get into with bad credit. Si hard. Need financial independence from husband and don't want to leech off of my 72 year old mother, I think she wants him to continue to pay utilities and mortgage so she doesn't have to and utilities can be expensive with $200 electric bill and $150 month water bill and gas bills can be high in winter, $300/400 a month. Husband doesn't even pay full balance. No idea about going back to trade school or community college, and not much encouragement either at my age. Can't afford to pay 30/40 thousand for a trade school and make not much more than minimum wage with student loan to pay back. Keep praying and asking God for help these last 2 plus years going through divorce and God doesn't seem to be answering and showing me the way to go. Maybe he's mad at me??? Don't know what direction to go in as far as job goes? Community College would be cheaper than trade school but don't know what to do there and I'm afraid of the math, science and speech class requirement for all majors. I'm an average person not retarded or brainy. Shy and scared of public speaking but I get along well with people and am friendly one on one.

Lord, please help this person. Please guide them to focus on one thing at a time in the order You see fit. You know their needs, Lord. Thank You. In the merciful name of Jesus I pray and give thanks. Amen

Lord give comfort and strength to this person. May they allow you to guide their steps to a better life in you, as you perform your prefect will in this marriage and both their life's. I pray in Jesus name amen.

Lord, I ask You in the Name of Jesus Christ to intervene in this situation and in all similar situations that others are facing. Please provide for each person and also let this woman's ex-husband not run over her or exploit her, but also have mercy upon him and forgive him, and help him also come to know the Lord Jesus as his personal Lord and Savior and also let him and his now ex-wife be reconciled to one another with true love, concern, and compassion for one another.

In the Name of our Lord Jesus Christ, I thank You for having already done all of these things. AMEN.