Paula yes the only way you can gain the respect is by loving yourself as a child of the living God and being strong in Our Lord Jesus Christ. Do you realize what this means Paula? You are a Princess as being a Child of God so act like one and expect respect from all, even from your children and X. That doesn't mean you don't love them any less, but that you are a human being worth of respect as well as them or anyone else, for you are no less than them. But you have to act as such by not being a chicken toward them even if it hurts or you tremble, for you will only stand strong when you face them strong.. In the name of Jesus you have the power to set you free from all these persecutions. You are the only one allowing it by not standing strong, and with God's help I know you can do so.

Lord please have Paula stop being a softy in which people can push around and stand on her, including her family. Let her see she has the power with your help to stand strong against all adversities. I pray in Jesus name your precious Son, amen.

Ephesians 6:12-18 "For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this age, against spiritual hosts of wickedness in the heavenly places. Therefore take up the whole armor of God, that you may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand. Stand therefore, having girded your waist with truth, having put on the breastplate of righteousness, and having shod your feet with the preparation of the gospel of peace; above all, taking the shield of faith with which you will be able to quench all the fiery darts of the wicked one. And take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God; praying always with all prayer and supplication in the Spirit, being watchful to this end with all perseverance and supplication for all the saints."

Paula the shield of faith you can get by reading the bible to gain the faith you need to withstand the enemy. Start with the Psalms if you find it hard to read the rest, but this is the only way to fight the enemy with the word of God as your shield. As you memorize it and keep it in your heart and mind the enemy will flee from you life.