My daughter has decided to marry her fiance' without me (her mother) being there. Not even for the civil ceremony. I am so heartbroken and crushed, that I have been crying for three days. It's a given that our kids must go on with their lives, as adults, but this is selfish and the one thing in life I wanted was to see her get married. Since this is her choice, I am getting to the point where I don't even want to meet this man. He hasn't made the effort to make sure I could, which doesn't make him seem like a very good man. (I'm in Michigan, they are in Ohio.) They have a car and I don't. Prayers are needed for me just to get through this, since it's such a painful time. I'll always love my daughter, but I feel as if she's just forgetting I am her mother at this point. (I already have my only son that is an alcoholic and not reasonable, so we don't talk.) After three days of crying, I'm about ready to just live my life alone and without contact with my kids. It may seem harsh, but there isn't much choice in this matter.......thank you for the prayers.

There is always a choice. Your choices make up the story of your life. What do you want your story to say? Regardless of your kids' choices, you still have the power for your choices in your life. That's good news for all of us.

Lord, please help this family reunite with love and peace and understanding. Please give each person strength and humility to come together for the greater good of their family. Please help them all through this season of their lives. In the name of Jesus I pray and give thanks. Amen

Amen. .. change our beloved daughters hearts towards us, loving moms, for Your kingdom sake Lord... we pray

I had the same situation with my youngest daughter, who got divorced and then met someone on the net. Moved eight hours away from us, and is living with that man. Took my grandsons with her so I don't get to see them. Eventually they made their own life's and don't even contact me nor answer the letters I send them for their birthdays and Christmas, even though I never get one. We even went up there to visit them once, and she has her body all full of tattoos now and her sons too, plus earrings all over her ears and nose. I guess they wanted to live a life they are a shame for us to see, so they moved away. We felt not welcome when we went to visit them, were not offered even a glass of water. We had to stay at bread and breakfast the closets place to them, a great expense for us. They made it hard for us to see them with the excused that they had to work even on the weekends. So we went when we knew they would be home. All I can do is pray for them now, and continue to send them the cards. The oldest one got married, and we didn't even got an invitation to the wedding nor have met his wife. I emailed my daughter and I asked her why we weren't invited?
We were told we wouldn't had been able to afford that trip, or give them enough for the wedding gift. We still sent them $100.00 which, was an effort for us, who are living only from our social security. We found out of the wedding, because my daughter emailed me during that time of the preparations, I knew it was because she wanted us to send them a monetary gift. When they were little and we worked, they lived closer to us. We used to buy them clothing, toys, and take them our for their birthday to nice restaurants for dinner, since their father is an alcoholic, we wanted them to see is a better life than what they had. Now I have left them in God's hand and pray for them every day. Like someone told you above, we still have our own life to live, don't let them ruin it for you. They are already adults, and it's up to them to chose how they want to live theirs. Someday they will have to face our heavenly Father, and have to answer for themselves how they have lived it while here on earth, not you for them. They will keep on living on their merry ways for now, and you will be the one not happy if you blame yourself, or worry about it. Just love them unconditionally as Jesus love us, and don't hold any grudges. Send them cards like I do, and hope that God will someday touch their heart's.
Lord give this person the peace that only comes from you, and the strength to see them through how their children are behaving toward them now. May they continue to love them unconditionally as you love us. In your precious name I pray amen.

Amen Lord soften all their hearts towards us their loving moms IJN MIGHTY NAME WE PRAY AMEN! GOD BLESS

Lord thank You for the gift of life through Your precious son Jesus. Let us remember even in difficult times that heaven and earth will pass away and that when we believe the truth we will spend eternity with You. Those even closest to us can hurt us- give us complete grace to forgive and to let go of control of these situations- but to trust in You. I pray for a deep bond between these mothers and You Lord and between these children and You and that in this -love will flow and these people will be reunited in You in a more complete and better way than ever before