For about eight months I have been praying for my ex-boyfriend to be saved. While it would be nice to get together, we went that whole time without talking and when he recently got in-touch with me, I saw that he has not changed at all. I am sad to hear that, but the Lord allowed a door to be opened and I was able to ask if I could send him my email devotions. He was open to it and read the first one when we talked about it. My devotions have been going over Christ quote thoroughly and I know that it has at least the gospel message. Just pray that God would intervene and change his life. Not only do I want to be friends again, but I truly want the Lord to change his life. Please pray for him to be saved.

I don't want to give up on this...it has been hard, but when I don't focus so much on the relationship, I feel a little more positive. Just pray he will turn to God. I don't want him to end up in hell or in a life without God.

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I don't know if anyone will read this, but if you have an encouraging word or testimony that would help me so much. I truly miss my best friend and it has been a heavy burden on my heart for him to be saved. I had something truly awesome happen to me today and he was the first one I thought of, but unfortunately, I cannot tell him anything...I love him, but he has not changed his life. I have made major changes and I have learned a lot from following the command given in Matthew 5:44. However, I am struggling from day to day. Sometimes I'm sure he'll be saved, that the Lord will deliver, and other days, I'm afraid my friend will refuse the Lord...I continue to send him my email devotions, but we haven't spoken in over a week (which is nothing compared to the eight months before that...in fact, at this point, I don't think it's a bad thing).

He was put on my heart long before we were dating, and he was put heavily on my heart after---I mean, I have explored the option of not praying for him, but found that every time I questioned, the Lord showed me it was important to continue in prayer. So, if there is anyone out there with a word of encouragement, please submit a response...that's what I would really like.

I really want him to change his life, to get saved and give service to the Lord--I want him to hear, "Well done, thou good and faithful servant," to have a good church home, to have something besides what he has had. I can't see and although it's a good thing, I have the hardest time with it. I want to see the Lord working, and I see some remnant, but I don't see him seeking the way he used to seek God. I am afraid of his spirit being seared, of him never getting saved.

I know the Lord will do everything He can...sorry I just need a kind word, a good verse...if anyone feels compelled to respond, I would be very grateful.

Thank you for taking the time to read this.

Hello! I really feel for your situation, and I will definitely pray for your ex-boyfriend. I know what it feels like to be in love with a non-christian - I'm in that exact situation myself at the minute. I love a girl who feels the same way about me, but I can't go out with her because she doesn't have faith in God. We've had many conversations, and she's even went to church with me and read the bible, but nothing seems to be happening: she seems further away from God than ever, and bitterly sees him as a barrier to love. It breaks my heart, but I keep praying for her.
Keep having faith in God's plan. He cares for your situation, and he loves you as well as your friend. Keep praying for your friends' salvation: never give up praying for him. Even if you both move on and have nothing to do with each-other in the future, still keep praying for him - God has brought him into your life for a reason, and I believe he wants to reveal himself to your friend, in his own timing. Nothing happens by accident - keep trusting in God's love. God doesn't ignore a servant who calls for him. Believe. Trust. Pray. The morning is on its way.

Allan,

Thank you for your reply. It's me again, I had you praying for Jared. lol I wrote this shortly before I saw your post and thank you for the encouragement. I will continue to pray. Seeing that our situations were very similar really helped me, I feel like there's someone who actually understands what I'm going through--it has been tough finding someone that I truly relate to. Btw, I never told you my name, but I'm Briana...just for future reference.

I will continue to pray for Maj, and I hope you are doing well. Thank you again so much for your support.

Update: I have had a stronger burden than ever for my ex boyfriend (at least I haven't felt this strong burden since we first broke up, back in April). I don't know if the Lord is trying to work or if it's simply my emotional state...I have continued to send my email devotions, along with either a few or several verses and helpful quotes. I know that I cannot persuade him to be saved, but I ask that people would pray that the Lord would be in this and that He would work through these messages. Also pray for "laborers for the harvest." To my knowledge he has not had much exposure to Light and he has no godly male role model. He and I haven't spoken, which isn't entirely bad since he has not changed...but I would like to be reconciled. I would like to be able to have him back in my life, but according to the Lord's will, as a saved man, willing to serve the Lord. Please pray for him...it is so hard to know at this point how he's doing or to see what the Lord is doing. I don't want his conscious seared and I don't want him to come to a place where he won't be saved or he would be so blind that he wouldn't see truth.

Just pray his eyes would be open, especially during the holiday season...my devotions have been dealing strongly with Christ, and I'm hoping he will see his need of a savior. Pray that he will have the gift of repentance (godly sorrow) over his sins, and just that he would turn to the Lord in general.

If you are led to do so, please leave an encouraging comment. Thank you.

All we can do is pray. GOD has timed everything on His time. I know it is hard to be patient --- we walk by faith & not by sight, 2 Corinthians 5:7. Let God, but their heart must be willing to be open...


I don't know if anyone will read this, but if you have an encouraging word or testimony that would help me so much. I truly miss my best friend and it has been a heavy burden on my heart for him to be saved. I had something truly awesome happen to me today and he was the first one I thought of, but unfortunately, I cannot tell him anything...I love him, but he has not changed his life. I have made major changes and I have learned a lot from following the command given in Matthew 5:44. However, I am struggling from day to day. Sometimes I'm sure he'll be saved, that the Lord will deliver, and other days, I'm afraid my friend will refuse the Lord...I continue to send him my email devotions, but we haven't spoken in over a week (which is nothing compared to the eight months before that...in fact, at this point, I don't think it's a bad thing).

He was put on my heart long before we were dating, and he was put heavily on my heart after---I mean, I have explored the option of not praying for him, but found that every time I questioned, the Lord showed me it was important to continue in prayer. So, if there is anyone out there with a word of encouragement, please submit a response...that's what I would really like.

I really want him to change his life, to get saved and give service to the Lord--I want him to hear, "Well done, thou good and faithful servant," to have a good church home, to have something besides what he has had. I can't see and although it's a good thing, I have the hardest time with it. I want to see the Lord working, and I see some remnant, but I don't see him seeking the way he used to seek God. I am afraid of his spirit being seared, of him never getting saved.

I know the Lord will do everything He can...sorry I just need a kind word, a good verse...if anyone feels compelled to respond, I would be very grateful.

Thank you for taking the time to read this.
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(12-07-2013 03:22 PM)Guest Wrote:  For about eight months I have been praying for my ex-boyfriend to be saved. While it would be nice to get together, we went that whole time without talking and when he recently got in-touch with me, I saw that he has not changed at all. I am sad to hear that, but the Lord allowed a door to be opened and I was able to ask if I could send him my email devotions. He was open to it and read the first one when we talked about it. My devotions have been going over Christ quote thoroughly and I know that it has at least the gospel message. Just pray that God would intervene and change his life. Not only do I want to be friends again, but I truly want the Lord to change his life. Please pray for him to be saved.

I don't want to give up on this...it has been hard, but when I don't focus so much on the relationship, I feel a little more positive. Just pray he will turn to God. I don't want him to end up in hell or in a life without God.

Prayers & let God deal with it. He took you out, I know you still care very much but he cares of the world. His heart is of the world still. His heart must be willing to accept God too.

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All we can do is pray for them since God is the creator & their hearts must be open to God.

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Let go & just trust God. He is mightier than anything & anyone. Continue praying & have faith even as small as a mustard seed.


Update: I have had a stronger burden than ever for my ex boyfriend (at least I haven't felt this strong burden since we first broke up, back in April). I don't know if the Lord is trying to work or if it's simply my emotional state...I have continued to send my email devotions, along with either a few or several verses and helpful quotes. I know that I cannot persuade him to be saved, but I ask that people would pray that the Lord would be in this and that He would work through these messages. Also pray for "laborers for the harvest." To my knowledge he has not had much exposure to Light and he has no godly male role model. He and I haven't spoken, which isn't entirely bad since he has not changed...but I would like to be reconciled. I would like to be able to have him back in my life, but according to the Lord's will, as a saved man, willing to serve the Lord. Please pray for him...it is so hard to know at this point how he's doing or to see what the Lord is doing. I don't want his conscious seared and I don't want him to come to a place where he won't be saved or he would be so blind that he wouldn't see truth.

Just pray his eyes would be open, especially during the holiday season...my devotions have been dealing strongly with Christ, and I'm hoping he will see his need of a savior. Pray that he will have the gift of repentance (godly sorrow) over his sins, and just that he would turn to the Lord in general.

If you are led to do so, please leave an encouraging comment. Thank you.
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Hi,
Do you have an update? I'm hoping the Lord opened your boyfriends eyes to the truth. I just broke up with my bf 2 days ago for the same reason. I too have had a heavy burden to pray for him. I'm praying your situation turned around!

I'm in the same boat.. I'm saved and he's not. He wanted to get close to God he went to chruch with me did a bible study but the devil still has a tight grip on him. I'm hoping me and him get back together too God put him in my path for a reason. I miss him. But I don't wanna be with him until he gets saved.

To the guests that asked:

My situation has not turned that I can see. When he contacted me last, my ex hid the fact that he was not only the with another woman, but that he was moving in with her. And he made it clear he wanted nothing to do with God. I don't know what had happened since then (it's been almost 3 years). I've just prayed and waited. I was shocked to see my thread come up this morning.

My advice, seek the Lord in what He would have you do. While they are unbelievers, the answer is no. And there is no guarantee they will come back. I have had some encouragement from the bible, but restoration is truly case by case. By the time they get saved, if they get saved, you may move on. I personally have not. I am not the Lord. I know a lot of people go through this after a break up. Just pray and ask the Lord and be willing to accept "No." If He says, "Yes," wonderful, but put His will above your own.

I know those are probably words neither of you want to hear. I didn't want to hear them when they were given to me, but if you're willing to hear, "No," you'll truly find the Lord's answer (that doesn't mean it is no, but you won't be able to hear from the Lord til you come to that point).

This was the verse God gave me after my last interaction. God spoke to me, but I use it sparingly, as I don't believe it is for everyone: Philemon 15. This may be for you. It may not.

Thank you both for your questions. The Lord bless you.

(09-17-2018 09:29 AM)lightwarrior Wrote:  UPDATE:

It's been almost 3 months as of now as I'm typing this and I grew discouraged and think that moving on completely is the best course of action- there's no point in holding on to someone in hopes that they will change. While we must always have to pray for them of course (we should never give up on a single soul!), continuously remaining in touch with someone (especially an ex, who prefers living in darkness rather than the light) is really taxing for us if we sincerely do hope they will change. Remember self-care guys, to whoever reading this and is under the same circumstances- don't burn or worry yourself too much over it- let go and let God. Prayer works wonders, let God handle it, and do NOT concern yourself too much over it and please please do move on. Thinking about them every now and then is fine just to keep their names on our prayers- do not fantasize, let the thought flow and GO, it is not worth it at all to hold on, trust me. No matter how good you think those memories or hope or possibility, etc. Please take care of yourself and work out your own salvation with fear and trembling rather than someone else's, also- focusing solely on Jesus and His Kingdom so you will bear much fruit and be able to minister to other more receptive souls. Holding on profits no one.

One day, they WILL change (prayers are mighty!), but holding on to that hope with the hopes of getting back together or to be buddies with them or anything will DISCOURAGE YOU GREATLY. Please save yourself the heartache, and fight through prayers. Pray that God will plant someone else to deliver the gospel and show the light to him, God took you out for a reason. Love yourself and never look back. It is important to love yourself so you can love others as you love yourself. Keep encouraged and motivated. Please move on, it is not worth it at all to remain hoping and I've learned it the hard way for almost three months of going back and forth, trying to remain in contact- planting seeds, and mostly daydreaming about the future. Please please move on, and keep in contact through your prayers only.

I believe one day something will change, God is mighty to save anyone-- rejoice when it does, and simply move on if they do not. It is not your responsibility to save anyone, men aren't saviors, only God is. It's too much of a burden despite your loving intention to see someone be saved- God loves them too much and gave them the free will to reject so.

Hope this helps!

I have been trying to.move on for the last few months now. I've been online looking, as well as attending other churches. However, it is difficult to find a church like mine. I have faith the man I seek is out there. I still pray for my friend and I'm still open to the idea of reconciliation. However, I've turned it over to the Lord and I have peace. I guess that was my point when questions came up. We have to move on from the hurt.