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my spouse doesn't want to pray and wants a divorce - kikiangelitos - 05-10-2014 02:00 PM
Dear Brothers and Sisters,
I KNOW THIS IS A REALLY LONG MESSAGE, BUT PLEASE READ IT, AS I HAVE NO FELLOWSHIP WITH ANYONE. I AM DISABLED, AND I NEVER GET VISITORS, AND I HAVE NO ONE TO TALK TOO. PLEASE READ IT, AND PLEASE MESSAGE ME WITH YOUR THOUGHTS, AND COUNSEL. THANK YOU.
Please pray for me. I URGENTLY NEED IT. Please also read my todays event. Please write to me, as I don't know what to tell this person I love so much. I want them to be saved, I want the Holy Spirit to enter into this persons heart.please pray for my marriage, i dont want my spouse to leave me. they have been giving me the silent treatment for years. i love them with all i have in me. please pray for my health, and since it cant be fixed, if there is a heaven out there, any sins i have may i be forgiven and received, please pray for me, i cannot stop these tears. pray for my two sons who my ex took without my knowledge, pray for the world. i cry for this world, and now i am crying over my spouse not wanting me, hasnt loved me for years, and wants to just leave. please pray for us all, this world that is falling apart, and nothing sacred, for injustice in the world. I feel broken hearted and so shattered. and I don't know anymore if there is anyone upstairs anymore. i am tired of people saying they don't love me. i wish i was aborted as a child by the woman who dumped out in the dark. i cant anymore. My spouse says the world gets divorces, so I don't see the problem, and I keep trying to explain to my spouse that who is the centre of that marriage, who holds marriage as a sanctity? And then why do people say follow your heart? And if one is miserable what should they do? I said when has it been since the last time your prayed? They said quite a while, and i said you know why? because you have been too busy chatting online with all your friends who are more important than your spouse, and even forgotten who the centre of us is. I don't know what to tell my spouse anymore on the sanctity of marriage, and how to save it more than this. They said to me today that I love you, but I want us to live as friends. I mean it is getting absurd more and more. When my spouse said the world are having a divorce, and my best friend had a divorce, and I said and that is not acceptable, at least not to me Scripturally, and neither is the 3 abortions she did. This is a person who has lied over and over again over the months, even though my life was in danger because their family wanted me dead. To me follow your heart is, do the right thing morally. When your soul is engulfed by Ruach Ha Kodesh, so will your heart. I said now what you are saying is very self centered, and only a person who thinks about me me me is wanting to follow their heart. I mean I don't know is there any other definition to this? This person is adamant to allow the devil to take my spouse again. They say well I don't love you that way, I said if you knew who the stem of us is, then that love would of grown just like mine. My spouse says well in the beginning we have this ignition of love, and then that dies out, and it is just a habit to have you around. What is that? I had sent my spouse plenty of sermons so they could read about marriage, about the dangers of the internet and facebook, they didn't read not even one. And now I find out they are speaking to their sister, the one who instigated the thing to come and kill me. And I had to report it to the police. My thought with marriage is, you will stick by this person regardless of what is surrounding you. But your love doesn't diminish it gets better. then i find out they are talking to some girl that i forbid to talk too, because she was involved with this woman, and went and told that womans mother and destroyed this persons life. I tell my spouse in life you need to have people who carry morals, ethics and calibre, and if what is write in Our Creators eyes. If you are going to bring the Scriptures to them fair enough, but speaking to someone for 9 and half hours is long. Why is it ok to divorce, but we would never leave our child behind, who could turn out to be a real menace? All I know is I got this house, and we were supposed to try for a baby this year, so we got a bigger house, more furniture, all these baby things and clothes you name it. And it is like they weren't even going to tell me they were going to leave. Our best friends spoke to my spouse, and saying what you are doing is wrong. Just a smurf. I said did you even think of the ramifications of if you left me what would go through my mind? Before you take and action, you need to know the reaction. I don't know what to say anymore. Due to my health problem it affects my relationships, and it doesn't matter how much i love that person, i am always isolated and left behind. And that the fighting stops, and may there be peace, happiness, and humility what for what have, which others around the world don't have. Our finances are horrible, especially with no work, and low incomes. The Devil is back, and won't quit until he is done, as their mother is a voodoo practice, and this seems like it is ending for a divorce. I don't want the devil to keep on winning. I want victory in this marriage and our lives. the way my spouse was speaking today, that is how their family are, and would encourage them to say it is ok to divorce, and follow our hearts, and when we can't face a situation and it's bad, move on, and leave the other one behind. please pray for us. The Holy Spirit needs to intervene and rebuke the people who are the spawn of evil, and bring them back to where the Tree of Life stands. If that verse above is true, then why has every person I loved been taken from me, and not only that, they have left the faith, and conformed to the world? My spouses family are in the deep occult doing magic on us, and sending their wolves into our life, and my spouse is blinded. They have set the snare. I am losing this battle too. I have had enough too of always things disappointing us, and not be able to help our finances, go on a vacation, and landlords messing with us and getting away with it, but i don't want to run away from my spouse, i love my spouse. but they just want to go to the family that has been slagging them off, slandering about us, plotting against us, and i am not good enough a wife to stick around. the foster family i was placed in said i would always be a alone. and they are right. i have been alone for all alone for 44 years. it is easy for someone to say you're not, well if we take a person, and leave him alone too long, they lose it, and my dementia is just getting worst, i have a few small strokes and i am starting to fall to the side more often than i should. no one will be here when they go. i ask of the Most High for once in my life to not allow me to be hurt once again, and lose another person I dearly love to the devil. my spouse walks, i walk the tunnel of death. i can't be having this faith and hope all my life, and end up being stabbed again and again. There has to be some salvation. people don't hold onto the significance and love, and the sanctity of things. it is like that song, that loving feeling. when things are great, we are all happy, but when things are dark we need to run away, and leave our companion behind, who the companion just wants to be friends. i always said that. but my spouse doesn't pray no more. doesn't even have the slightest want to do that. all they want to do is get on the internet get on facebook, viper (what a name, right?) and whatever else they get on. they must be having some form of relationship, because my spouse is fixing themselves up more, and taking care of all the details, nails etc., another case of loss and grief and mourning for me again.
people say things, like the heart changes, yet they expect Our Mighty Creator to not change with us, still be in their good books, but it is ok to lessen our love for someone, to run away, and invite the devils people right back into our life. And believe that this person who is the devils little worker to blind you all over again. My spouse needs to wake up, and start smelling the coffee, and start getting with Our Almighty Creator. Them not caring of what they are doing, but it is just a me me me situation. This is serious my brothers and sisters, people don't care about relationships. they think they are disposable, if that is the case, then you are disposable for the upstairs senate that awaits for us in the afterlife. yes there is pain, but love and those arms can hold that pain, and tell the devil to get out of those arms, because the one that is within those arms is more important than anything else this planet could give. don't give up? people give up on you. so you have a choice. do i want to carry on and allow this world to continue to be hypocritical, and have no care of others feelings. we all hurt each others feelings, but we all need to make up, and love remains and only grows. now if someone is out to get your life, then there is no love, because the demon has his little workers too, and so far he is doing a fantastic job being in my life, in my marriage, in my everything. faithfulness and love has lost the real essence of everything that is sacred anymore. keep to the words. do what you say, and say what you mean. and when society disappoints you, never point a finger at someone who gave up, because that person may have been given up a long time ago. it is easy for some to say pick yourself up, but if that person is drowning, and they are all alone in this battle, no family, and the other is on dry land and could care to put their arms around you when those tears touch the floor, why stay around in a world like this? People say let them go, but why? A marriage binding, it is debaq. How can I let someone I love, and said I spend all my days where you? Be blessed. Kiki, ps- my spouses name is Portia Jolie x.
thank you so much for your prayers. could someone tell me something please my dear brothers and sisters. should a spouse divorce you because 'the world does that'? should your spouse divorce you because 'life is just too hard to handle?" should your spouse divorce you because "they can't handle the situation (meaning because i suffer from epilepsy, spinal injury, dementia, mild stroke?' should your spouse divorce you because 'hey everyone in the world is getting divorced?' should your spouse divorce you because 'their love has changed and i just want to be friends?' should your spouse divorce you because 'they have to follow their heart?' please my dear people, provide me your opinion on all this, because my spouse told me all these things. from the time my spouse told me this, my health has skyrocketted, i have had another small stroke, and i have been told by my foster keepers that no one will ever love, no one will be my friend, and no one will every want to stay married to me. my first marriage my spouse left with my two kids in 2003 i haven't seen them since, and don't know where they are. i didn't want to get married again, but my second spouse we fell in love, i thought they were in the gospel, but the internet became to important for them, and for 4 years i have been ignored, isolated, and not been hugged or kissed or paid any attention too. and my spouse just doesn't care. hasn't prayed in months now, and i have asked my spouse you need to pray, because if your feelings have diminished that is of the devil, the devil wants to break this up that is why he has put his little workers, your family who are into voodooism, and abortions and all that. but my spouse doesn't even want to change their mind, or pray and bring that holy spirit back so they can see things in the way things are for Our Creator and the whole plan. I said please pray to our Saviour. My spouse will blatantly refuse to pray. I said you have left holding onto the Tree of Life. Please please someone of you people tell me if I am being illogical here. Please give me your opinion and advice, and something. because i am all away from the world. i never see anyone, i am disabled, and this person is so cold towards me. and thank you for your prayers, be blessed, and may Our Saviour have a canopy over your lives, and may you always have love, peace, happiness, unity and above all the Holy Spirit, so they can always move on our world and bring more people closer to Him. In Him alone, have a great day, Kiki x.
RE: my spouse doesn't want to pray and wants a divorce - eugene - 05-12-2014 12:33 AM
Your heart cannot be broken beyond our Creator’s hand to heal. It just can’t happen. There is no situation you face that can ever empty out the future God planned for you. Although you may not feel it now, your life is filled to overflow with God’s unending power and purpose. His angels are surrounding those who belong to him. There is nothing that has been left to chance.
You were created for God’s glory and his purpose. He has made ready the royal robes that those who trust in Christ shall wear one day in his kingdom. All things are being orchestrated in God’s magnificent plan for your life. As a sparrow does not fall to the ground apart from the will of the Father, I pray that you also know that every tear you shed is before God and subject to his ultimate authority.
We are all going through the battle of our life, dear friends. No one is exempt from the sufferings of this world. Whatever you are facing, there is always hope when you belong to Christ. There will be a time for your trial to end; and if you have held out in faith to the end, you will be rewarded in this life and the next. Why does God allow us to go through heartache and pain? It is only in the crucible that we gain an eternal perspective of the power of the God we serve. It is there that we see that Christ does meet us in every trial causing it all to work according to his perfect plan. It is there that we are strengthened as he draws us near to him.
RE: my spouse doesn't want to pray and wants a divorce - Guest - 05-12-2014 06:55 AM
True love is a gift of doing good to those who sin against you. When you give that gift, you get a taste of the character of God. Love is forgiveness with action, the kind that moves toward the one who has rejected you, where you are willing to serve and love your spouse for the sake of Christ. True love is active. You start praying daily for God to send the Holy Spirit to speak to your beloved husband or wife so that they will want reconciliation to God by confessing and repenting of their sins, and then restoration to your marriage and to your family which will occur suddenly in God’s timetable.
You can surrender your body, soul and spirit to living a Christ-like lifestyle 24 hours a day. Never doubt that God’s will and way is for your one-flesh covenant marriage to be restored. Do not listen to others who are speaking death to your marriage.
You can cry all day long and pray, but that's not going to move God to work on your situation. He does hear your cry and undertand your needs, but that's not faith and faith is what it takes for God to move that mountain out of your life. The need we have in our time of grief is to get the person we love back into our lives. We love him and miss him (or her) and it hurts, Oh God does it hurt. But God wants us to love and miss Him more than we miss our mate. He wants us to lean on Him, give Him our grief and let Him take care of it for us. He wants your love, your plea's and to get out of His way.
You see, God wants a relationship with you, an intimate relationship. He wants to be number 1# in your life. "Love God with all your heart, with all your soul, with all your might." God first, your spouse second. When were weeping and crying praying to get our mate back, we're putting our needs before God. You'll know who you love most by who you think about most. When you're praying for God to restore your marriage in your dire need, are you thinking about God, or yourself?
Once you establish a strong relationship with God, pray then be patient. QUIT WORRYING. Life has dealt you a blow, but you cannot sit around and worry all the time. God will take all your burdens and carry them for you.
You need healing, so ask the Holy Spirit to rid of your anger, your fear, your anxieties. Ask God to remove everything that is keeping you from restoring your marriage. Give God all your burdens and let Him take care of them for you. Once you've given Him your burdens, quit trying to take them back. Trust in Him. Have faith that He will take care of all your needs, your problems, your trials, your emotional roller coaster ride. He wants to help you...All you have to do is ask. Ask, then,
But God says, "I can do exceedingly and abundantly above and beyond all that you can ask, think or imagine. Greater is He who is in you than he who is in the world, for I am in you. You can do all things through Christ because I will give you strength to overcome. Trust in Me, do not lean on your own understanding. I am smiling down on you right now. I CAN heal your marriage and will bring about a wonderful reconcilliation because I work all things together for the good. Be confident and patient and you will receive My favor in amazing ways. I am a BIG God, there is nothing to difficult for Me. You are blessed, you are victorious. I will open up doors that no man can shut. My blessings are running down on you now and they are overtaking you. I love you, I will take care of this situation for you. Stand strong in faith and trust Me, and get out of my way because I'm comming through, and I'm coming through in the Name of Jesus."
Just trust God to heal your marriage because marriage healing is in the bible, the promises of God, that are crystal clear. He does not want you divorced, He wants you and your mate married for a lifetime, one man married to one woman for life, until death. He hates divorce (Malichi), so much that He says the one who would do such a cruel thing to their spouse is cut off from Him. He will not listen to their pleas for help. However, when you ask God to restore your marriage, you can trust that He sent help for the restoration the moment you asked. His word says so and He is not a man that He could lie.