(11-04-2012 10:26 AM)Guest Wrote:  It's been really effecting me recently that I have three friendships which have dried up. The first, with Jess, used to be a really good one until I asked if she'd like to meet up for coffee. We still talked but didn't meet for coffee as she was busy. About a month later we started to interact less. My messages would get ignored and I only got a rare reply. Now it's got to the stage where she only thanked me for her birthday present, but didn't respond to my future messages, just general ones like "how are your A levels going?". It would be fair to say that this may be because I don't have the confidence to go up to her at church events, but we used to talk for ages before and we rarely talked face to face. The second friend, Grace, well we, like Jess, used to talk quite a bit, especially about our same interest of music, but then, like Jess, I asked her if she'd like to go for a coffee at Soul Survivor. She declined, but we kept on talking. We spoke at Soul Survivor, and texted each other quite a bit, but then the bad things came when I guess I talked to much. See I'd message her too much, ask to many questions, want to talk, which got to her. Following this her friend explained that she felt I was nearly being stalkerish. Grace then explained that she isn't a person to be on Facebook or texting all the time, and then from there, we still talked. A while later, after discussing uni, her boyfriend, whether it is or not I don't know, send me an abrupt message telling me not to flirt with her. This got to me and her and since then all my messages have been ignored. Now them two have really got to me, but I'm more concerned about Pille as we have been talking quite a bit, until I asked for her advice on what to do about Grace not replying. In fairness it has only been about a day and half since the message was seen, but it's worrying me, as Pille, from recent conversation, is a person that will reply pretty quickly, so whether I have freaked her out with that I don't know. All this is really getting to me, as it seems that my friendships are all going down hill. I do have other good Christian friendships, but I really don't want to lose these ones, especially Grace, as we have so many common interests to talk about. Please can you pray for me, and if you can, offer some practical advice? Thank you, Jake.