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Lost Love: Important Update--Need Prayers - Guest - 02-02-2012 11:56 AM
A lot has changed for my life recently. My friend and I actually got together...I couldn't believe it either, but we did. We were physical with one another although we didn't cross the ultimate line of intercourse. However, there were things that I had done with him that I shouldn't have looking back. I didn't think we would be tempted so much, but we were...especially because, I never would have thought he would have looked at me like that. I mean, sure I hoped that maybe someday a long time from now that it would happen, but it happened on a trip that we took. We've been together a couple of times since, but one night his ex called, wanting to be physical. He didn't go, because we were together, but he didn't think it was a good idea that we continue. He admitted to being selfish by initiating everything. I asked him why he even brought it up and he told me, "I thought you would say no." He said that it had been more than just friends with benefits, but he didn't want to be in a position to hurt me. He said he would rather be my friend for life than a boyfriend for a short time (he ultimately doesn't think it would work out, because I would ultimately want to get married). He admitted he had already hurt me, but that it would hurt worse the further we went.
I don't understand this...I don't think he was using me. I feel that there was more there, but that he got scared when I confronted him. Today, I prayed and repented for my actions and I am now asking for prayer on another issue. I'm not asking anyone to be in support of a potential relationship: obviously that was a mistake. I don't think it means it couldn't happen much later, but right now it's not the answer. During the time when we were casually together, he asked what my pastor's theory on the end of the world was. I conversed with my pastor and he gave me some verse references. I typed them up and I plan on giving them to my friend to answer his query. I will say that has been a positive in all this. My friend has still been asking questions about church and I believe the Lord has been preparing his heart. Our wrong was jumping into something we shouldn't have way too soon.
I ask that you would pray that he would be convicted, that he would be open to the answers. I typed up several verses, many that refer to the need of salvation. I believe that my pastor gave me a lot of spiritual food that the Lord could use. I just wonder now if the Lord can. I prayed that He would use me: I don't deserve it by any means, but I thought of Samson and even after Dililah, the Lord gave him one last boost of strength. I have lost a lot, but I have gained some wisdom.
I don't want to lose my friend, but I don't feel I can go back and pretend to be normal again with him, like nothing happened between us. He wants to and based upon actions not specified, I know that he cares, but that he and I were not ready for this. Thus, I'm trying to focus on what the Lord wanted from the start: I believe He was preparing my friend to be saved. I just ask that you pray for support for me. I'm not sure if I will be able to continue this friendship or not, but I don't think I can leave without giving him one last bit of spiritual advice. Please pray that he would be receptive of the Lord's message...not for myself, but for him. I don't want him to go to hell because of what we did. I don't want to ruin the Lord's plan for him. I don't want to be a stumbling block anymore.
I'm not asking for relationship advice, so I would appreciate that you would focus on what prayers you might have on your heart. Getting together would be awesome, but I want it in God's time, if it will ever happen. And, as I said before, I don't want to focus on that, because that's not the issue. Yes, it's been a problem for myself, but he needs the Lord. I want the Lord to be first and to focus on Him. He will get me through this pain.
Thank you.
RE: Lost Love: Important Update--Need Prayers - Guest - 02-05-2012 06:58 PM
Please Lord, help me to be strong. I am so in love with my friend, and I'm hurting worse than I ever have. He needs the Lord...he told me recently that he feels like a robot, that he hasn't been in love for at least five years. I think it may be a defense mechanism so that he doesn't feel the pain of the past, but I also believe it's because he doesn't have You. He needs You, Lord and I've done this to myself. We did this to each other. I wonder how we could have...how I could have allowed it. I just want him to see You, to see me...please change his heart. It's not about having a boyfriend, but it's about not having to see him struggle, scramble through life. I want him to have the best, I want to share my life with him, but most of all, I want to share You. You're the One who can change everything, Who can show him the way, to show him to feel whole again. Please, Lord...give me strength. Show him Your will, open his heart. I pray this wouldn't be the end of the road, that You would lead us down the path You would have us to travel, to the promised land where there is much blessing. Have Your will and way, Lord. In Christ's name I pray. Amen.
RE: Lost Love: Important Update--Need Prayers - adoring1 - 02-06-2012 06:21 PM
Father, please bring this young man to the point of salvation that he may know the assurance of spending eternity with you. Please give this young woman the courage to leave this in your hands and to walk away from this dangerous situation. This young man has told her...he does not want to marry and we as women will benefit from focusing on the truth of what is said...do not date who would not be a good mate. Take the maybe's and in the future and all of those thoughts from her mind...let her know she is forgiven but let her have the Godly sense to stay away from fire...Father work this out as you see fit for this man and his relationship with you...and for this woman and her relationship with you also. In Jesus name...Amen!