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My only child has left God - Guest - 12-08-2010 03:30 PM
Please pray for my only child. He's 24. He's left God and is involved with a girl who has a very bad influence on him. She is emotionally disturbed. They do drugs and live in sin. Pray my son split with her and come running back to Christ. (He used to love to read and used to want to be an evangelist, now he does neither.)
My relationship with him has been strained for many years, he doesn't respect me, behaves rudely towards me and is unloving. I am deeply saddened by this and burdened that my son isn't in college, doesn't have a stable job or business and doesn't have a car nor does he show any signs of straightening up. It appears to me that he is following in his dad's (my ex) footsteps - a loser in every way and a drug addict. My heart is shattered by my own son and I can't help to wonder how my life would have turned out had I not had this baby because it's been an extreme struggle from day 1. My insecure ex-husband drugged me to get me pregnant in an attempt to keep me in a failing marriage and I couldn't bring myself to get an abortion. I had a hard pregnancy and delivery, a hard marriage then divorced, a hard time raising him as a single mom (without any child support), I was extremely ill and poor but I did the best I can. I hurt inside when others tell me of their kids success or kindness because I have nothing good to say.
Wow I hate thinking about all this, it's so depressing.
Thanks for your prayers!
RE: My only child has left God - Guest - 12-08-2010 04:25 PM
Lord Jesus, we lift this guest up to YOU, her son, her entire family, for family tree healing, for appreciation of what is, as YOU ARE THE GREAT I AM. As Christians it is particularly important to live in the moment. God Is Love. One can pick apart their life, woulda shoulda, but what good does it do? Healing comes in walking THROUGH THE REFINER'S FIRE & guess what? it can be hot at times.
The son is 24 y.o., he is adult & can make his own decisions, as he is, it is good to pray for him, as you do, however, coddling is not the answer, in fact, pushing more into The Lord, into your own life is the answer. You did your job raising your son & teaching him about The Lord. There are some that are called, others are not. Not everyone's name is written in The Book of Life. It is sad, but a fact.
Have boundaries & expectations that are GODLY, is a good thing. We don't have to judge our loved ones, we can love them despite poor choices, but we can control how often we spend time with them when we & they are adults.
You mention perhaps an abortion may have been the answer, do you realize that the price you would pay if you had done that may have been far greater? Jesus does forgive sin, even abortion. However, we still pay a price for our sins. We work out our salvation through fear & trembling.
If you believe that you made a poor choice in a mate & you became pregnant, then the challenge is to love yourself anyway, to understand how this young man has blessed your life. Did you have to pray more ? You mention feeling jealous when others brag on their children. Maybe the answer is in learning to find the goodness in the young man despite his choices, feeling that love & saying to others how much you love him, & that you are praying very hard for him.
Our soul, salvation, is in how we interpret what is on our plate. No, it's not easy at times, & can be for years, or a lifetime. We are healed in CHRIST, in HIS LOVE, the difficulties are a REASON for pushing in closer to HIM. Maybe that is where you will find your healing. That by your challenges you have to try hard, to be closer to HIM, but guess what? That's exactly where the healing occurs?
If you can be an example to your son, by your love, for yourself, for him, regardless, that is healing. That's not about perfection or may even be resigning to that he is not doing well. He's an adult, all you need to do, the bible says, now, is to love. Love him. Love.
You don't have to cut him off, the bible speaks of caring for & about our families, but tough love, just like Jesus' Loves us, is amazing, in our own walk & in the walk we share with others.
I pray that your love grows, for yourself, for your son, even for your ex, that you see the big picture & feel overwhelmed not by stress & regret, but by love, GOD's AMAZING HEALING LOVE.
Guest Wrote:Please pray for my only child. He's 24. He's left God and is involved with a girl who has a very bad influence on him. She is emotionally disturbed. They do drugs and live in sin. Pray my son split with her and come running back to Christ. (He used to love to read and used to want to be an evangelist, now he does neither.)
My relationship with him has been strained for many years, he doesn't respect me, behaves rudely towards me and is unloving. I am deeply saddened by this and burdened that my son isn't in college, doesn't have a stable job or business and doesn't have a car nor does he show any signs of straightening up. It appears to me that he is following in his dad's (my ex) footsteps - a loser in every way and a drug addict. My heart is shattered by my own son and I can't help to wonder how my life would have turned out had I not had this baby because it's been an extreme struggle from day 1. My insecure ex-husband drugged me to get me pregnant in an attempt to keep me in a failing marriage and I couldn't bring myself to get an abortion. I had a hard pregnancy and delivery, a hard marriage then divorced, a hard time raising him as a single mom (without any child support), I was extremely ill and poor but I did the best I can. I hurt inside when others tell me of their kids success or kindness because I have nothing good to say.
Wow I hate thinking about all this, it's so depressing.
Thanks for your prayers!
RE: My only child has left God - adoring1 - 12-08-2010 06:05 PM
Father, help this woman to let go of this adult son. Stand in the gap in prayer yes...but commenting about her life and how it might have been different had she aborted this son? Father as harsh as it sounds...we do not own our children. We give them life and do our best but as they reach adulthood their choices are their own. And all we can do is pray and IF ASKED give good counsel. Help this woman to change the way she looks at things. Yes she is hurting, yes she is disappointed...but her life is now her own to do what she will with it. Love her son in an Agape way and pray for him...but let him go and let you deal with him. She says she has nothing good to say about this child and at this moment that may be true...however she does not know the future. A case in point is the son of a Pastor that I knew in my hometown. He was a gifted child in music but early in his life got into drugs and became an addict of the worst kind. His father prayed...his mother prayed, they both counseled but the son continued to walk the path of the world. His father passed away 9 years ago still believing that God would bring him through...4 years ago he got clean...last year he married a deeply Christian woman and remains sober today. His father never saw this...but his prayers were heard...and his mother has lived to see this gifted young man restored and those prayers answered. I pray that this mother will pray and love this son as you do...without condition...while at the same time not becoming co-dependent with him to the extent that she would wonder if he should have been born at all. Let her pray and tend to her own garden...not rescue, not preach but pray and wait on the Lord. He and only he can reach this young man...I pray that he does and I pray that this mother lives to see him restored. In Jesus name...Amen!
RE: My only child has left God - Guest - 12-08-2010 08:54 PM
the enemy has laid a trap for your son and he fell into it,please dont assume that hes left the lord , as you said hes like hes dad, that is the entrance point for foul spirits to lay a claim over his life for they say hes dad commited all these sins so he is our inheritance through the blood however your son has a new blood covenant in christ the lord so dont give up the lord is mighty to deliver keep praying keep believing and totally FORGIVE all who have done wrong to you THIS ONE IS A BIGGIE FORGIVE FORGIVE FORGIVE now once you have searched your own heart and believed that there is no unforgiveness in your soul you can start taking authority for the one that lives in you(christ the lord) is greater than the one that lives in the world so pray nightly like this;SATAN I REBUKE YOU IN JESUS NAME YOU ARE DEFEATED RELEASE MY SON IN JESUS NAME I COMMAND then say FATHER GOD SEND 12 LEGION OF WARRIOUR ANGELS TO GUARD OVER MY SON IN JESUS NAME and also pray I BIND MY SONS MIND TO THE MIND OF CHRIST IN JESUS NAME
RE: My only child has left God - Guest - 12-08-2010 11:51 PM
Dear HEavenly Father, please help this mother, bless her. Lord please Father draw this son close to You , please Holy Spirit speak to this young man, let him hear your call and feel your tug on his heart and conscience. I pray this man return to serving Christ and believing and accepting His salvation. According to Your will, In Jesus name I pray
RE: My only child has left God - tishlea - 12-09-2010 02:54 AM
Precious Jesus, I lift this son up to You. I pray that he will have the desire to turn from sin and back to You. Lord, bind satan from his life. Lord, I pray that this addiction be healed. In this I ask in Your name,Jesus, that this son give his heart to You. Amen.
RE: My only child has left God - stevendanielsen - 12-09-2010 01:58 PM
Dear Havenly Father The Kingdom come thy will be done on earth as it is in Heaven forgive us are sin as we for give are debtor and lead us not into temptiation but deliver us from evil Please answer this person prayer acord to your will and bless there life Lord and we give you all the honor,glory, and priase to whom all power belong. IN JESUS NAME I PRAY AMEN
RE: My only child has left God - Chris8 - 02-13-2012 03:54 AM
Dear Lord,please have mercy on this mother and her son.
In the Name of the Lord,right now I command to all the power of darkness and the curses to leave this family! Now!
I pray that Your will to be done in their lives.
You are the King of kings and Your Name is Wonderful.
Thank You my Lord