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| Posted by bubbachew - 09-02-2013 05:55 PM |
| This is in regards to my ended friendship with my Histrionic Personality Disordered friend. Hoping for reconciliation. A few years ago I reunited with her and her sister through Facebook, after 30 years. Before too long I told her that I was sexually abused in first grade and that my best friend and I were abused by someone during our 6th and 7th grade period. Then she told me of the hell her and her sister went through. A narcissistic set of parents with no boundaries with the mother doing the mental abuse and the father doing sexual abuse to the younger daughter. My best friend (yep, the one who was abused along with me) was dating the HPD friend who at the time I had such a crush on. She was abused by baby sitters and once by a store owner. The younger daughter told an outside family member to what the dad did and he went to trial then jail. The Sisters grew up in a home that had emotion and sexual abuse that damaged them both. I was 17 when our family moved away but I returned a year or so later because I was in a band in High School I wanted to rejoin. This was about the time of the trial. I went to visit her with my best friend even though they broke up and she looked awful because she was all drugged out. She looked like death. My favorite person ever hardly talked or recognized me and I died inside right there. Wasn't long after I left back 400 miles away to where the family moved to . I thought I'd never see her again. So when I found her on Facebook alive, sober and bright eyed and bushy tailed I was so happy. She almost died twice getting her stomach pumped but she turned it around was married twice and even had a son. So now finding her again The HPD sister was helping me through the same childhood situation. She then began dating this guy I don't recall being to nice towards me as a teen who is now an ex cop. So I gave up hope in anything between us but cherished my friendship with the two sisters. She is an entertainer and we were in a band once back in the day. She was single again right before I was going to visit her but she got back together with the cop again before I got there. Still everything was really nice during the visit but the friendship became damaged eventually online due to our relationship becoming one sided and controlling by her. When she's off with this guy things are ok bu but when they are on I think she was playing some games with my heart. I called her out on some things and got stonewalled and unfriended her. I tried to reach out to the Younger sister but I've lost her it seems at least for now even though I initially had her support. I was hurt and grasping for reasons this happened suddenly. After talking with my therapist we concluded it to be Histrionic Personality Disorder. I think the cop manipulates her disorder. I need healing of this broken heart and for God to help them. God show me where I could be wrong in this and make amends but I feel as if I've been used by her disorder. I forgive her and only want her to be healed and to know Jesus. My heart wants them back in my life. I worry for them because she isn't saved and the sister is a Christian but has some unconventional ideas attached. I miss them and worry about them. I learned of her disorder after the fact and think I can handle emotionally why she hurt me because it is for the attention seeking this disorder is all about. She is a hurt child inside. Now she isn't speaking with me because I rejected her, not meaning to, but I didn't understand. I wish I knew but I don't think she even knows. What should I be hoping for? I can't get the sister who I'm still Facebook friends to get in touch with me. She was on my side but maybe I didn't count on her bond with her and she doesn't know what to say. I'm stuck in a no man's land. All I've been able to do is pray but my heart is still hurting. I never hurt over anything in my life its worse than physical pain. |