(10-22-2011 05:25 AM)paula0331 Wrote: thank u and praise god for all the good people on here. especially those that went through what i am going through. my kids dont talk to me i cannot talk to them they talk to tim. tim told me he does not remember cheating on me only remembers me yelling. does not remember doing porn bad bab porn or not working. he told me i rmember the bad things. no that is y i still love him i remember the good times our wedding and giving it to god the day he got saved and baptized in "God and started going to church with me. the day the twins were concieved and born. more. my heart is breaking to know he is with g/f now. i miss him and told him how i feel deeply i told him sometimes i think i miss him more than the kids. sad but true. my heart back and mind is breaking. the meeting went well but still making stup0id mistakes at work. i went to a job interview and was told i am not qualified for job. what next my life is amess pray for me. tim's bdya is coming up and i want to spend it with him bdaly the day he leaves his g/f to come home to me and the kid come home to me will be a party big party in my life pray to God it can happen
Stop complaining. Say that God is good, and good all the time. Say that no matter what you are going through, you are still blessed because you still have a chance to please God on Earth and to enter Heaven. Know that no matter how awful, catastrophic, or unfair things may seem, that all things work for the good of those who love God according to the will of God. Know that these events that seem awful, catastrophic, and unfair are going to happen no matter what you do (or how much you complain) and that it is not going to change in this world, so the only thing that you can do is to get on the correct team so that these bad events will somehow some way at some point work to your good. If you do not, rather than suffering bad that will work to your good, you will simply suffer bad and that is it! And furthermore, know that what you are going through is just for a time. Your Promised Land is coming. Your Heaven is coming. All you have to do is endure until the end.
Beyond that, pray. Instead of complaining about something, go to God about it. The reason why most will not go to God about their complaints is because they A) know that their complaining is sinful and B) know that the root cause of their complaining is sinful desires. These people forget that God knows their heart. Even if you do not outwardly complain and no one hears you, you are still murmuring against God’s will and plan in your heart and God hears it, and it is still counted as sin! So you might as well go ahead and admit your complaints against God to God so that God can deal with you. Realize that either way God IS going to deal with your complaining self. The difference is that if you take those complaints to God you can be forgiven, delivered, and saved, but if you do not then you are in for a world of hurt!
Beyond that, what good has complaining ever done? Complaining is the mark of a person who lacks love, knowledge, faith, and submission. Even if you have some legitimate need that needs to be met, instead of offending God by complaining about it, please God by praying about it! Will your prayers offend God? At times. But that is actually ALMOST OK, because if you offend God when you pray, he will let you know, and you will be able to immediately repent and petition God as to what will please him because you will already be praying. It is still FAR PREFERABLE to the only other alternative, which is not praying about the matter at all, which is exactly what Satan AND the demon that is gnawing at you want … for you not to pray so that the issue in your life is never resolved by God. There simply is no excuse for not praying, and the reason is that praying is simply the only thing that we can do. Nothing else is going to work anyway – least of all complaining – so why not pray? And certainly do not refuse to pray because you want to sin, but you are afraid to sin so complaining about not being able to sin is the next best thing. Just get on your knees and tell God that you want to sin! If you are afraid of offending God, do not be in this context. Why? Because God already knows your heart. He already knows your desire to sin. Therefore, he is already offended! So just tell God about it and take your medicine. Had the children of Israel done the same and confessed to God or at least to Moses the sin that was in their hearts, they would have been spared! Do not replicate their mistake! The incident is recorded in the Bible for the specific purpose of warning you not to walk in their paths!
Realize that the key to ending complaining is not to SUPPRESS the complaints with willpower, mind tricks, lies, and re – directions. The Israelites tried that. It did not work. Rather, the key to ending complaints is prayer to God, confession and repentance of sin and sinful tendencies to God, and deliverance from any evil spirits that control this area. That is what they should have done and what you must do. It may not be easy, but it is definitely attainable and well worth the effort. The consequences of not doing so are grave, for consider not that the Israelites died, but the fate of their eternal spirits (oft referred to as souls) because they died in their lusts. Do not let it happen to you!