My son ® and his ex-girlfriend of almost 4 years (T) are going through a bitter break up. Unfortunately, 7 months ago they had a baby girl (L) who is now being used as a weapon to hurt myself, my husband (B) and my son. My son has had to call the police to their apartment on over a dozen times for her violent temper and destructive behavior. She has broken several phones, a DVD player, punched holes in the wall and even keyed my husband's car once when she was mad at our son. She even spent a night in jail this May for breaking my son's nose by head butting him with their daughter in her arms. My son is no angel himself and has done & said several things I’m not proud of. However, he has never responded to her violence with violence, but instead maintained self control and called the police. This drama has been pretty much a constant in their relationship from the very start and recently caused problems between our son and his father. Thankfully, the Lord has seen fit to resolve that issue, but still, we continue to carry this burden daily.
Below is more information regarding our need. Thank you so much for your prayers. ~Yvonne
The original message copied & pasted below is one I sent to my uncle earlier this morning. It explains our situation. >>>
Please continue to pray for us and our little L. Since I last contacted you R came over and just fell into B's arms, weeping, apologizing, begging us to forgive him for being so ugly to us. He said he feels so utterly alone and helpless. He is hurting so terribly and there is nothing we can do (in the physical world) to ease his burden.
When I last emailed you T was still being extremely civil to B and I, and us to her as well. She is still behaving erratically, sending R hateful text messages at 2:00 a.m., etc. and she turned on B and I as well when R finally made it clear that he does not want to reconcile with her. I guess when the enemy realized I would not relinquish my son to his evil plot to destroy our family he moved on to another vessel to use against us. T is now being very difficult when it comes to any of us seeing L.
Since that child was born I have had her with me 3 - 4 days a week, without exception, even though her mother did not work. (T refused to get a job until R made her leave the apartment last month and she had no other option.) She has now limited our time with L to 2 times a month. On every other Wednesday I am allowed to pick her up for that 1 day. T has also informed us quite clearly that in our state grandparents do not have any legal visitation rights (although we have never claimed we had any rights what-so-ever) and we should consider any time we are permitted to have with L to be gratuitous.
T's mother is in law school and has fed T all of the proper "legal lingo" and the threats are flying towards us as they believe R and his family have no rights in regards to L. We do not have the finances to retain an attorney for R and we need the Lord to just take control.
T had been going to church when she was trying to win R back, I don't know if she has continued to go or not. She is so broken inside, and has been for a long time. In spite of everything she is putting us through I still love the girl and want nothing more than for the Lord to just reach down and comfort her, to breathe healing into her spirit.
I want the same thing for my son. He is so hurt, frustrated, afraid, lost. He knows the Lord but I'm fairly certain it has been a long time since he has actually called out to Him for help. The spirit of pride has infiltrated both of their hearts and it must be cast out of them or their is no hope at all for a peaceful resolution.
B had a stroke a while back and since then he doesn't handle stress as well as he used to. For quite some time I have had to be "the rock" in my family, the prayer warrior, the strong one. I am OK with that role as my faith is strong and God has faithfully carried me through many trials and tribulations. But this, well, this is unlike any pain I have ever felt.
I am trying so very hard to just be still and know that my God IS GOD, He is the ONLY God who reins over this family, He is the Alpha and the Omega. I declare out loud every day that HIS will is the ONLY will we will submit to and HIS voice is the ONLY voice that commands my family, and I remind myself minute by minute, hour by hour, that this battle belongs to HIM.
With that being said, I have to admit I am so weary. In the wee, quiet hours of the morning my arms ache from the emptiness that my sweet grand daughter used to fill. I miss her so much sometimes that my heart literally hurts and all I can do is beg God for relief. Please continue to pray for us, and please put us on the prayer list with your church. We truly need a miracle.
(This post was last modified: 09-08-2010 09:43 AM by yrsi.)