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| Posted by adoring1 - 12-13-2010 08:15 PM |
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My dear girl...much of what you are saying every Christian feels periodically. My Spiritual mentor use to call it a valley time...meaning that our lives...spiritual and otherwise have mountaintops and valleys...and as we mature we will have many, many valleys where we do not feel the euphoria of mountaintop experiences. When we first come to know Christ we are so excited...as the wonder of his word opens to us and as we see the impact of his promises in our lives...and then at some point we go into the valley...we know Him, we love Him and we know He loves us...but we still want this or that and if it doesn't come right away and or on the pace that we want and so life appears to us to feel mundane. We can become angry or hurt by the fact that our desires have not been answered...we can pout or as you suggest just feel empty...which is another way of saying we can feel that we should have something different and therefore life is just not worth it any more...and many of us do. Our God however is unchanging...He is the same as He was the first day we came into fellowship with Him...so what is the answer? Trust and love...love and more trust. Our Father needs to know from us that we will trust Him with our lives even if we NEVER get what it is that we ask for. He needs to know that we will be content with what He provides even if it is totally different from what we think we want. He needs to know that we LOVE him enough to push through the valley times...the valley of dry bones times to get back to the point of loving and trusting Him. We choose how we will feel believe it or not. We choose to accept and enjoy the small things of life or to experience discontent and unhappiness because we do not have what we want or who we want or the house we want. Please know that these things...including boyfriends and girlfriends as meaningful as they are can be distractions from what is really important...from the things of God. Until God can trust how we will respond to his timing or His will when it is different from what we want...He will not move to give us greater things or greater responsibility. Until we are right in Spirit...we are not ready for promotion to bigger things. Think of it this way...would your mother have allowed you to drive the family car if you had not learned to be responsible in riding your bike and putting it away at night so that it would not be left out in the elements to be ruined and rust ....or get taken by an opportunistic thief if left out in the park instead of being brought home? Most responsible parents would not. God is a perfect parent and He knows what we are ready for. Look at how you have been feeling over the past several months which began because of a young man who you wanted so much that you were putting yourself through torment even though he demonstrated himself to be irresponsible and insensitive to you. Look at how you were hurting and angry and just emotionally on a roller coaster. God knows where you are developmentally. How would you handle having a husband who lost his job and you and he had to face the pressure of losing your home or wondering how you were going to feed your children? This happens often to couples in this world...are you ready to deal with this if you cannot deal with your feelings over a relationship that never even really got off the ground? You have to learn to push through the valleys dear one...and God will know when you are ready! Until then...work on your relationship with the Father and the Son...work on trusting Them...work on loving Them and showing it even when you do not feel like it through prayer and study. They have never wronged you and never will. Love is a decision...not a feeling both toward God and toward other human beings. If we cannot love and trust the Creator through all things...how will we love men or women who are imperfect and will do things to hurt us even when they do not mean to and sometimes on purpose? Earn your promotion to bigger and better things by trusting God and loving Him actively...by loving the life He has given to us...and all He has provided. Father...help this young woman to think on these things and understand them. Let he who has ears...Hear. In Jesus name...Amen! |
| Posted by Guest - 12-12-2010 09:48 PM |
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Please be in deep prayer for me. I feel as though I am in a rut that I cannot pull myself out of. As I have posted before, I have a big lack of faith when it comes to asking the Lord for Him to send me the right one--the man He wants me to eventually date and marry. However, I just feel dead in general. I don't know if I'm going through a bout of depression--honestly, I wouldn't be surprised if I was. I went through a more severe depression earlier this spring when I was fighting with someone who I thought was a friend and when things went down on my "relationship" (for lack of a better word...perhaps courtship?). I don't even feel alive sometimes...I continue to teach Sunday school, but our church has fallen on some hard times and although some people think that the spirit has changed in our church for the better, I'm still rather pessimistic. I just feel as though I am empty somehow--I mean, I know that the Lord is with me and that He still loves me, but He feels so far away. Certain things in my life have not gone right and I'm attempting not to care, but I think I am harboring a lot of anger. It has gotten to a point where I just cannot cry any more or be livid...I'm just spiritually drained from everything. I hate feeling this way and I know that is a dangerous place to be in life when you are numb to the things of the Lord or when you feel this way. I think that's how I felt honestly before the trials started in my life beginning a year and a half ago. I just feel "done"...done with life. Now, I am not contemplating anything drastic, so please do not fret about that. I am just really worried about my spiritual condition. I think there are things that I have done that are not right and I've gotten angry when I should not have, etc. I just need some help. It's difficult for me to pray--it's worse than a chore. I'll think I need to pray about something or I'll be asked and agree to pray, but if I do (and that's stressing if) it's a short and sweet prayer. I have prayed some more in-depth prayers and have had conversations with the Lord, but it is still very difficult to me. I felt the need to stress this, because I do not know what I need to hear that I'm not hearing or what I need to see that I'm not seeing. Something needs to change though--I do not want the Lord's judgement on me for not getting out of this rut...it's almost as though I feel like an enemic christian. Thank you for the prayers, both past and present. Sincerely, Lost Love |
| Posted by adoring1 - 12-11-2010 07:19 PM |
| Father, please increase this guest's belief in your word...that she might trust you more and not be anxious about your plan for her. It will not come until it comes...and she will benefit greatly from learning to enjoy her life and find happiness within it. The Apostle Paul says that we need to learn to be content in whatever state we are in...that is the basis of joy and of true happiness. Christ says...do not worry about tomorrow...that is the basis of contentment. Live each day fully! Engage in each activity of each day...and life will become not only more bearable while waiting but amazingly far more beautiful to live. In Jesus name...Amen! |
| Posted by Guest - 12-11-2010 06:06 PM |
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Update-- I ask again for your prayers at this time. I'm trying to do better about my situation, but I still have some faith-based issues. I have moved on...recently I was confronted with the idea of getting back together with this person. However, he is still in his other relationship and after contemplation that no matter how bad I wanted it, I could never be in that type of relationship with him. Unfortunately, he is not saved and also he is not mature enough to be with me. He has a difficult time standing up to people and telling them what he really wants, which is a major problem for me. In fact, some of the things that he confided in me recently about himself made me glad that we never dated and that we are just friends...things would have been more painful had they gone the other way. Now, I really feel ready to move on--I know that I am more than able to...it's just that there is still a wall built up that I have a hard time knocking down. There hasn't been anyone that has been presented to me and I want to wait on the man God has for me, because I know that is an eternal bond that won't end up in heartache like this bond did. Please pray for me. I really only want to end up with the man the Lord has for me--I just have a really hard time dealing with it. At times I feel pathetic for never having a relationship of any kind although I know that that isn't the case. I am scared that I'll be waiting into my thirties for someone to arrive--I just don't want to be here forever. Please pray for me to have faith, to know that God does have someone for me. My cynical attitude needs to change and I just need to get over this hump in my life. Thanks. |
| Posted by adoring1 - 11-29-2010 06:39 PM |
Father God, thank you for the growth that is seen in this young woman's prayer life. I ask that you would honor this prayer fully. I also ask that you continue to help this woman to focus on her own garden and trust that you are growing this young man that you have for her in his. Scripture teaches "when a MAN finds a wife it is a good thing"...not when a woman finds a man. Help this woman to appreciate the meaning of this...let her go about her business being the best Christian she can be, the best student she can be, the best daughter she can be, the best friend she can be and trust that this man is doing the same. Their paths will cross in your perfect timing while she is just living the life and walking the path you have for her. Father give her patience, peace and increase her hope that she might experience the joy of this man finding her when she least expects it. It will be a wonderful, amazing surprise and it will just be right as he will be a gift directly from heaven. Thank you for the maturity that you are bringing inside of this woman's heart and in her focus. Thank you for the wisdom and discernment you are developing within her. Thank you for her willingness to follow your direction. Continue to speak to her heart Father...as the woman she is becoming can only be described as Godly...which is what you want for any Godly man. In Jesus name...Amen!Guest Wrote:Dear Lord, |
| Posted by Guest - 11-28-2010 09:05 PM |
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Dear Lord, I ask that You would help me to find the one--that You would ready me for him, Lord and that I would be everything that I need to be for him. I ask that You would mold me into a selfless person who can truly appreciate him for the person You made him to be. Also, I pray that You would give me the wisdom to seek You first in our relationship and that You would have Your hand upon it now, before we find one another and until we are parted in either death or when the last trumpet sounds. I ask that I would be molded into someone who can be a supporting wife, one who grows him closer to You--one who is truly a woman of God. Lord, I know that I am far from perfect and that I could never be, but I ask that he would be satisfied in You so that when I come into his life, he'll be able to be satisfied with only me. I pray that he would be the man You would have for me, because I know that man would never cheat on me or disregard me--I know he would love me the way You would have him to. I ask that You would have provision over his life so that he would be molded into such a man, a man who truly loves You and could never hurt either one of us in such a way--nor in any other way that could potentially ruin any bond we may have in You. I ask that also would never be tempted, that I would be the woman he needs. Give me the heart to be able to love him unconditionally and mold me into the woman he needs. I ask that in turn he would have the same love for me--one that is truly undying in ever way. Finally, I ask that You would bring him soon, Lord. If there is any way that You could bring him into my life, I ask that You would. I know that Your timing is perfect, Lord and if this is not what You would have, I am willing to wait. I do not simply want a boyfriend--I want the man You have for me. I just ask that my wait would not seem long or drawn out. I ask that he would come quickly. Lord, I really really want him. I miss the feeling I used to have when I was in love and I miss being able to share that. I want to give it out, but to the man You have for me--not just to anybody who will have me. I want to love the one You have and I want to do it the way You would have me to. I pray that any temptations would be steered away and that only he would open my heart, that only he would be able to swift me off my feet. I know that You do not wish to have me be alone and I know that he will come in time. I just ask that I be ready when he does and that my wait would not be long. Thank You in Christ's name I pray. Amen. |
| Posted by adoring1 - 11-26-2010 07:00 PM |
Guest Wrote:Dear Lord, Father, thnk you for this young woman who is trying to reopen her heart to you despite the feelings she has struggled with. Thank you for the honesty of her prayer and thank you that you are listening from heaven. Father provide clear direction to this young woman that she may follow the path that you have for her life. Father in your kindness remove the sense of urgency that she has about her mate coming to her and replace it with your perfect peace and a willingness to wait on your timing. Father no matter what we want...you know what is best and when we wait on you and accept your will for us including your timing our lives are so much more content. That her pray for this man to come but with an understanding that he will when you have truly prepared him...so that her contentment in life will be full...to receive him before you have readied him will only bring pain and dissatisfaction so in your love for her give her patience to wait. Father...take away her fear of being alone...as woman we all feel that sometimes...but it is really important to put things into our lives that bring us joy...starting with you. Help this young woman to enjoy this time of singleness that she might learn more about herself and what makes her happy...outside of being in a relationship. She will need to know those things deeply even when she is with another as no man can be the center of our world...without feeling smothered. Let he work on her relationship with you and discover those things that bring her joy and engage in them...and when she least expects it the one for whom she waits will come. Let it be so Father...and thank you for loving us enough to hear our prayers. In Jesus name...Amen! |
| Posted by Guest - 11-26-2010 04:07 PM |
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Lord, please show this guest Your Will for their life, if there is someone that is meant for them on this earth to share their life with, be it Your Will, Show them. Give them Your Peace & that they continue to grow in YOU no matter their circumtances. Help them see all that happens as preparation for their Eternal Life where all is as it should be. Heavenly Father that we give You Thanks especially during this holiday season for what we have. Prepare us Lord, that we are Your Bride.  Guest Wrote:Dear Lord, |
| Posted by Guest - 11-26-2010 12:24 PM |
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Dear Lord, I ask that first of all that You would forgive me for being so distant with You--my sin has separated us and I have had no right to be angry. I ask that You break down the wall that I have put up. You've shown me through various men of God that You do not want me to be alone--You don't want to hold back. However, I have been the one keeping You back by not wanting to trust You and for that I am so very sorry. I don't want to be separated from You. I realize that You are not a magic genie upon whom I can inquire about any wish/request, but You are my friend. You are the friend that sticks closer than a brother and I should be able to talk to You about anything. Lord I don't want to hold out for someone who will never love me back. I thank You that he has been given to me as one of my dearest friends and that You continue to allow me to be a witness in his life. I ask that he would get saved and that my past issues with You would not hinder that in any way. Please allow him to see Christ the way You would have him to. I ask that You would please send the person for me. Lord, I don't want to end up alone--I mean, I know I'm young but sometimes it feels so far away...like I'm chasing a pipe dream. Lord, please...I know You can do anything. I don't want to waste my time with men of my choosing or men who would take me away from the one You want me to end up with. Please, keep away any who might deter me from reaching the person I am meant for. I ask that only the one You want me to be with would come--that he would love me as a husband should and that I would be with him until Your return or until we are parted in death. I don't know where to look or where to go, but I ask that You would bring him into my life. Please, Lord--I don't want to hold onto my way any more. I want to submit to Your will. I know that I do not deserve anything from You, let alone this man You've made especially for me. I just ask that You would have mercy on this wicked sinner and that You would please send him quickly. Please get him ready for me and I for him. Please send me the one You have. I thank You in Christ's holy and precious name. Amen. |
| Posted by Guest - 11-24-2010 09:45 PM |
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Please continue to pray for me--as I have already told someone else, I have a wall built up. It's like my own personal Jerico and I'm trying to keep out any other possible pains. I know that my relationship with the Lord has not been what it used to be, nor is it anywhere near what it needs to be. I just feel as though I'm afraid to talk to Him--and it's the silliest fear one can have. It's like this is the one subject you don't bring up because you know there will be a fight--I just wish that finding the One didn't feel like chasing a mirage or some sort of fantasy. I really want the person the Lord has for me, but I have no faith that he exists (the person that is, not the Lord). I realize that it has to start with me--I have to step up and make a change. I think I'll pray tonight--just stop putzing around like I have, feeling sorry for myself. Thank you for your advice, prayers and support. I'll be in touch. Lost Love |
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