Father God...you teach us in your word that it is your will that not even one of your sheep be lost. Father...I ask that you remove all protection from this man...without his person being harmed...so that he would have no where to turn but you. I ask that you humble him down to the point that he knows that he needs a savior and cries out to Jesus to enter his heart. Father in your mercy help him to surrender to you and your son's loving care. In Jesus name...Amen!

Update--

I have finally started school again and I was able to see the man mentioned in the above. During the summer, he happened to move on to have a brief one-week relationship (if you can call it that) before breaking it off. I was hurt by the action and was unsure of how to handle it--I don't know if I should continue to be his friend or not. I mean, he and I really opened up to one another and I feel that he wants that--I want it, but the fact remains that I still want more, even after all this time. I just really need prayer. I would love to see him look at me the way he used to when I first got to know him, but my love will never be efficient for him. He needs true direction for his life. I still pray for his salvation--and if that were taken care of, then I know that no matter what happened between him and I, I could go on with better satisfaction.

So...to sum things up--pray for me to know how to deal with this, to manage my emotions, so that I can continue to be a good, godly witness to my friend--even if it means that nothing ever happens between us. Pray for him to have a heart to know the Lord, for the Lord to truly seek him out during this time so that he would come to know Christ. And finally, pray for the Lord's will for our relationship--I may not like the answer, but right now I know it is no. I want to be content with my friend and I don't want him to go to hell.

Thank you for your support.

Father, thank you for this Guest who seeks your direction for her life. Only you and she can determine if she should remain friends with this man and it is very wise of her to sek that answer from you before she proceeds. However, I thought I would share some insight I received many years ago when I was training to mentor young woman who are in dating relationships...as the first stage of dating is purely friendship...however in this instance much of the time would need to be spent not only in prayer with this friend...but in witnessing to him. I sincerely hope that this helps this guest...I posted this for another guest who had a similar concern...

Father, draw this Guest and her friend close to you. Let each of them as individuals take stock of their walk with you Father. Let them spend time in your word daily and in prayer with you that they might come to truly know you. Father, let them understand the true purpose of dating and the order in which it is to occur. First and foremost they need to become spiritually one through prayer individually, and for one another and together. The spiritual oneness is the adhesive that holds all relationships together and the lack of it is why so many relationships end poorly and with such pain. It is during this time that they each need to open their hearts to you Father that the fears that they have and past hurts may all be resolved...so that they walk into the next phase of dating CAPABLE of truly loving one another. You teach us that next they are to work at becoming emotionally and mentally one. That this is now a place of safety...as they are already spiritually of one accord...and it is at this point that engagement may occur, once this has been accomplished. Then and only then are they ready for marriage...and physical intimacy. Help this couple to understand the tremendous responsibility of a man becoming the spiritual head of a household, of a woman, of a family. If either of them is not yet able to let go of anger, of fears, if either cannot focus on what is best for the other despite what their own desires are, they are not yet capable of truly loving anyone...they are not ready. Let him work on his relationship with you Father and this Guest also...until he truly is ready to lead and she to follow, that this relationship may receive the deepest blessing from you Father God. In Jesus name...Amen!

adoring1 Wrote:Father, thank you for this Guest who seeks your direction for her life. Only you and she can determine if she should remain friends with this man and it is very wise of her to sek that answer from you before she proceeds. However, I thought I would share some insight I received many years ago when I was training to mentor young woman who are in dating relationships...as the first stage of dating is purely friendship...however in this instance much of the time would need to be spent not only in prayer with this friend...but in witnessing to him. I sincerely hope that this helps this guest...I posted this for another guest who had a similar concern...

Father, draw this Guest and her friend close to you. Let each of them as individuals take stock of their walk with you Father. Let them spend time in your word daily and in prayer with you that they might come to truly know you. Father, let them understand the true purpose of dating and the order in which it is to occur. First and foremost they need to become spiritually one through prayer individually, and for one another and together. The spiritual oneness is the adhesive that holds all relationships together and the lack of it is why so many relationships end poorly and with such pain. It is during this time that they each need to open their hearts to you Father that the fears that they have and past hurts may all be resolved...so that they walk into the next phase of dating CAPABLE of truly loving one another. You teach us that next they are to work at becoming emotionally and mentally one. That this is now a place of safety...as they are already spiritually of one accord...and it is at this point that engagement may occur, once this has been accomplished. Then and only then are they ready for marriage...and physical intimacy. Help this couple to understand the tremendous responsibility of a man becoming the spiritual head of a household, of a woman, of a family. If either of them is not yet able to let go of anger, of fears, if either cannot focus on what is best for the other despite what their own desires are, they are not yet capable of truly loving anyone...they are not ready. Let him work on his relationship with you Father and this Guest also...until he truly is ready to lead and she to follow, that this relationship may receive the deepest blessing from you Father God. In Jesus name...Amen!

I thank you for what you have said. I'm not sure if I will ultimately end up with this man or not--I know he isn't sure of what he wants in life. He has no direction, because he doesn't have the Lord to show him what He wants for him. He had a girlfriend for the last week before school and then broke it off, because he has had a bad long-distance relationship before and he did not want to make the same mistake. Plus, he did not seem to like the fact that she drinks. I didn't know about it until he opened up to me while we were alone. I know that he sees me as a good friend--otherwise, I doubt very highly that he would open up and want to be around me. I want him to love me--I really do, but as I said before--without the Lord, there is no hope in that.

I just thought I would clarify the situation, since you seem to be the one who is praying for me. I truly appreciate it and the advice you gave did help. It's not impossible for us to be together, but if that is to be...I need to wait until the Lord allows for it--when he's saved and as you said, ready to lead, ready to give up his selfish desires and me my own. I just continue to pray and the Lord has been working in my life, opening other doors so that I have been able to witness to all my friends, which I am thankful for. I know the Lord will open the door for him and right now, the best thing to do is to ignore my own selfish desire to be with him and continue to pray for him to get saved and for him to become a faithful servant of Christ.

Thank you so much for your advice, for praying for me, for caring. And, from what I read, you are right. If we are to be together, we need to bond together through prayer--through the Lord's loving grace for us. I just hope that I can weather the storm long enough to get to the other side--I'm like the disciples, waking Jesus--so unsure of what is going to happen--me of little faith. I just want my friend to be saved and I know that that will come to pass in God's time.

I suppose I'll end for now, cuz I don't know that I can say much more, either than to repeat what has already been said. I pray that the Lord would bless you for your kindness, because I needed it--it helped me to see the situation in a different light and I thank you.

Guest...stay strong i the Lord...and the power of his might!

Update--

I recently was upset at the idea of my friend going out on a date with another woman. I was torn apart, once again being showered in my own selfish wants and desires. However, a christian friend of mine stopped me from ending the friendship--she made the point that I may be the one God wants to reach him.

I read someone else's prayer request, who is going through something similar and I realized how selfish I have been. I want to re-direct my focus on the Lord and for this young man's salvation. Please continue to be in prayer for him and for the Lord to soften his heart so that he would be receptive of the salvation message. Also, pray for me, to be the witness I need to be, in spite of my selfish desire to be with this man. Only God knows the future and I could get what I want, but that wouldn't matter if I got what I wanted and this man went to hell. His soul isn't worth that. So please pray for us--that he will come to know the Lord and while the choice is ultimately up to him, I believe the Lord can still work miracles and I believe that if the Lord is allowed to work through me, he will get saved.

He seems to be inquisitive and although he doesn't accept what he calls, "the saved thing," I believe it's due to his incorrect belief that we can work our way to heaven in combination with repentence. Please pray that God will lift the blinds from his eyes that Satan has put up and that he will see God's wonderful truth. We cannot force him to be saved, but we can pray that his heart would be soft enough to hear and to listen and we can pray that the Lord would protect the seeds sown from being plucked up by the devil.

I thank you for your prayers in advanced.
Sincerely,

Lost Love.

Father, thank you for this guest and for her willingness to put her desires to be with this young man aside for a far greater purpose...his salvation. Help her Father to know the joy of interacting with another and having a part in sharing the good news of who you are and what you have done for us. Father...the maturity you are bringing about in this young woman is wonderful..Help her to keep every thought in captivity to the mind of Christ and to remember that unless this young man comes to the Lord...he would not be a good choice for her as we are not to be unequally yoked. Rather let her life and her walk with you be a witness unto itself to this man and the world.

Father...whether this man be the one for her or not...her internal beauty, the sweetness of her soul, her unselfish spirit and her compassion in time will draw a a good and Godly man...and he will be blessed to have her.

Father I ask that you soften this man's heart that it might be seeded with the understanding that he needs a savior. I ask that you touch him Father in such a way that the stone in his breast breaks and he asks for your son to come in to guide his life. In Jesus name...Amen!

Dear Havenly Father The Kingdom come thy will be done on earth as it is in Heaven forgive us are sin as we for give are debtor and lead us not into temptiation but deliver us from evil Please answer this person prayer acord to your will and bless there life Lord and we give you all the priase honor and glory in all of this. IN JESUS NAME I PRAY AMEN

Update--

Thank you all for your prayers at this time. I am excited to say that the Lord is truly working in this situation. Last night, I texted my friend when out of the blue he said, "Phillipians is hard to understand." You see, my signature has Phil 3:9--a verse eluding to how we cannot earn our own way to heaven and that we must trust in Christ. Apparently, he had read most of ch 3 on his own and was having trouble understanding it. I was so excited. We talk too much about the subject, but I know that this was of the Lord. He is moving closer to my friend.

Just continue to pray for his protection from Satan so that these seeds would continue to grow. I am so very excited to see the Lord work--I just can't get over it (not that I want to) I'm sure that our prayers will be answered and I can't wait for the day when I get to post that my friend has been saved.

Thank you for your prayers and your encouragement through the storm. Because of the Lord working in my life through you as well as through me, I know that I will get to the other side of the storm.

Father...thank you for this praise report. Your hand on this man and your working with him is so clear and so awesome to see. If we learn to just trust in you and your word you can bring anything in the world to be. Father...I ask that you protect this man from the wiles of the enemy who we surely know will try to shut down his ears and close off his heart. Please Father in your wisdom, I ask that you work at the pace you know is best to bring him into the kingdom...but in your time...open his lips to ask for Jesus to take residence in his heart! In Jesus matchless name...Amen!