Mel,

Something that I think you are missing from adoring1's advice is that she is trying to say that God wants what's best for you--and sometimes that's not what we want. Believe me when I say this, that is a lesson I am having to learn myself. Yes our walks are different, but the fact remains that you, like me, are struggling with God. Are you really putting your faith in Him or are you putting your faith in the relationship? The Lord is not the author of confusion according to the bible. The ups and downs that you're feeling are probably a sign that this is not the will of God. The Lord wants to do what He wants, not in selfish terms as we often think, because we compare Him to our fallen aspects, but it is so that He can give us far above what we ask. Adoring1 was saying that the relationship that she prayed for turned out not to be the thing that she ultimately wanted. What do you want? This man...or do you want the man God has prepared for you, who will love you perfectly, who will want to be with you, who will care and lead you in the Lord? The desires God grants us are our ultimate desires and I think if you answered honestly, you would see this for yourself. Believe me, I know where you, because I am going through something very, very similar. Without the Lord in it--nothing can change. However, you need to pray for His will and for Him to give you the desire to have it. It is so very hard--believe me, I'm struggling with it too, but I know in my heart that God will bring me through.

Open your heart to hear what the Lord has to say...and not just what you want. The Lord very well could turn things around, but you need to seek His face...otherwise, you're just going to continue to get hurt. Don't follow after your own will, because it will fail you every single time. God's will is not for you to be unhappy, but for you to ultimately find the joy in Him and in His gifts. This man, although it may hurt, may not be the gift you need. But the Lord knows who is--and if it turns out to be this man, fine. However, trust in the Lord, not the success of a relationship.

Be careful of what you desire because God may grant you just what you want. Even if he sees that later you will live to regret it, just to teach you a lesson for being so stubborn. He may want you to learn to wait on him but you are too blinded with this man to see it. Listen to God telling you to move on and put your trust on him, and not in someone who doesn't want you. Infatuation or obsession will get you nowhere with this man. We can't force someone to love us just as God won't force anyone to love him, for love has to come free from within not forced. Good Luck and Listen to God.

cometrail Wrote:I completely agree that God will grant us the desires of our heart... Although, sometimes it seems that God will make us wait a long time just to be sure that we still desire the same things. Sometimes we mature and no longer desire certain things, and at other times our desires just grow stronger as we wait for them. Yes, I definitely believe that if we are steadfast... then God will give us what we ask

And that is what I'm talking about. I have been reading the bible and I know that I HAVE to be steadfast... It is His will to grant us our desires. And it is by our faith that they are granted. I feel I am fighting a spiritual battle when it comes to me and the spirit that is in my ex. As a sign of faith, I placed my cross necklace on a picture of me and my exboyfriend together. And I remember that nothing is impossible with God. So no matter what comes in my way of this desire, it will be still there. I will pray for months on end, still maturing and still steadfasting. As not a vow to myself or man, but to God and Jesus Christ. I believe through Him, my faith will grow stronger. Because Jesus' faith was so abundant, and even though I am not perfect like Jesus, I will still follow His footsteps and have my faith in Him become not exactly as abundant (or it could be as that) as His was to the Father.

To all people who believe that this isn't in God's will, let me say that the only way it will NOT be in His will is if you just stop believing in that desire all together. Does it say in the Bible that God can and will change our desires? Not exactly. The only way He can do that is to ask Him to change them for you. If YOU want to stop the prayer/desire, THEN God will do so. If you still believe by faith that your desires WILL come to pass, THEN God will grant them. "If You, Then God." I have listened to a sermon on television about that a few days ago, and I read another article/essay online about the same thing by another pastor. "If you . . . , Then God. . . " The only way GOD will change it is if YOU do. That's all that matters. And I am still going to remain steadfast and if doubt enters my mind on this subject one bit, then I'm doubting on my faith in God. My faith hath healed me, saith the Lord. Faith in Christ is what will bring our desires to pass only IF we continue to desire for them. And I have vowed to God to stay steadfast on these prayers of mine. And I am reading His word (the bible) in the process. There are many women (one who is also a member here) is going through the SAME thing and believing the SAME thing I am. Please do not say otherwise that it is not in God's Will or if you think this "isn't God's gift to me". Am I not God's gift to my mother, even though I was not expected to live by being born 3 months early and being 1 lb. 9 ounces? Are we ALL not God's gifts, even the lost sheep? Our faith is HIS gift to us, for we are blessed with it. And I am blessed that Jesus and His teachings is taking my faith to a whole new level. Let it be. And God Bless,

Mel God has plan for your life and as said before I don't know about your ex boyfriend weather he belive in God or not but if not this is what God say about relationship don't become unevenly youged. So if he does have person relationship with Jesus Christ as Lord savior it could be in his will but belive are not to be in relation with non beliver and am sorry if am get on your nerse tell you this so hope he is a beliver and a relationship with Jesus.

Thought I found, "the one." He turned out to be the most evil wicked man I had ever met.

Beware of what you pray for.

Don't allow satan to trip you up but go with God's Flow.

Mel-S Wrote:To all people who believe that this isn't in God's will, let me say that the only way it will NOT be in His will is if you just stop believing in that desire all together. Does it say in the Bible that God can and will change our desires? Not exactly. The only way He can do that is to ask Him to change them for you. If YOU want to stop the prayer/desire, THEN God will do so. If you still believe by faith that your desires WILL come to pass, THEN God will grant them. "If You, Then God." I have listened to a sermon on television about that a few days ago, and I read another article/essay online about the same thing by another pastor. "If you . . . , Then God. . . " The only way GOD will change it is if YOU do. That's all that matters. And I am still going to remain steadfast and if doubt enters my mind on this subject one bit, then I'm doubting on my faith in God. My faith hath healed me, saith the Lord. Faith in Christ is what will bring our desires to pass only IF we continue to desire for them. And I have vowed to God to stay steadfast on these prayers of mine. And I am reading His word (the bible) in the process. There are many women (one who is also a member here) is going through the SAME thing and believing the SAME thing I am. Please do not say otherwise that it is not in God's Will or if you think this "isn't God's gift to me". Am I not God's gift to my mother, even though I was not expected to live by being born 3 months early and being 1 lb. 9 ounces? Are we ALL not God's gifts, even the lost sheep? Our faith is HIS gift to us, for we are blessed with it. And I am blessed that Jesus and His teachings is taking my faith to a whole new level. Let it be. And God Bless,